"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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2 plates are friends! What can I do?

Huffman

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OK guys, I need some advice!

Earlier this week, some girl asked me out to go to a festival on Sat. Let's call her "A". She's a bit shy and looks are average, but when I talked to her I got a boner, so I said yes!

NOW today at staff gettogether I met this OTHER girl who is HOT and into me! I applied good kino and she was touching back! Lets call her "B".

PROBLEM: as we're talking she says "do you know A, she works near you" - "yeah" - "oh, she told me she's going to the festival with a guy, that must be you!" - "yeah thats me... (changed topic here, haha!)". HOWEVER, even after that we kept touching and I took the number, so green light!

Now what!? Both have the hots for me, but the're friends! I don't want to choose! But even if I choose, one will hate me for dumping the other!
How do I pull this off!? I have a date with A, but want to sex B! Or both!

GRRRRRRRRRRRR!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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P.S.: There is actually a chance that I run into both at the festival. How the hell do I proceed.
 

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They're not plates until their lips have been wrapped around your raging hardon. Until then, they are prospects.

As for your question: Why bother? If one of them asks what the deal with the other girl is, just tell them you're friends, even if it's in front of them. And when you've singled them out, you make out. Confuses the hell out of them, keeps your intentions hidden and allows options to bang the other girl.

In the long run they'll find out no matter what you try, so unless you want an LTR with one of them, just make it clear that you're only interested in sex.
 

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LMFAOOO "two plates are friends"

Unless you've claimed exclusivity, all a girl assumed about you if you're spinning multiple plates is that you're a pre-selected alpha male who must have an amazingly tasty di*k.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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SandHawk said:
just make it clear that you're only interested in sex.
Okay prospects if you so want. Yes I think I should. The only reason why I wrote this is that one of them is pretty much AFC girl and I'm feeling guilty, even though nothing happened yet ;)

But you're right. This time I won't hold back because I'm afraid of being an ass. Me first, this time. I'll just try to pull it off without straight lying.
 

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Everything is going really well! Your faith is justified so far! A is fine, and quickly went out with B during work break. Damn she is interested! Was already texting me over the weekend. But funnily she then was reluctant to go. Was probably a test, because I said "cmon lets go" and everything was fine after that. Perfect mini-date, kino etc, she's into me. I gotta follow up soon.

She prolly thinks I'm a real pimp HOWEVER I'm expecting Last Minute Resistance later. How can I very quickly defuse the situation? I don't wanna get into an argument about how I'm friends with A and maybe she doesn't believe me and this and that.
Been there before, so what would you quickly say? "Blabla dont care dont worry" and continue. But not kill the mood with a discussion! Hm, maybe some smooth talk about how she turns me on, and then go for it again.

OK doing something else now before I think too much ;)
 

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In my experience, when they connect the dots you lose both of them. They make you the bad guy and that's that.

Must be a midwestern thing; these farmgirls are so afraid of getting played.
 
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