She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
no offense takenzekko said:Interesting that you get comments about your looks. Looks are subjective, of course, but you are clearly tall and fit with a good build, and that's attractive.
I kind of agree with Lavalamp that an unattractive guy doing the same thing might have a different reaction - the girl might even get irate and call for the manager or security lol.
I can kind of understand why you get some haters though. This will sound like an insult but I honestly don't mean it that way. There's something about your look and personality that suggests douchebag. Again, I don't mean that as an insult, I can't think of any other way to put it. A lot of guys have success with the douchebag approach - the Jersey Shore guys, for instance. It takes all kinds of people to make up the world. Ultimately, I think you get haters because of jealousy.
i know seriously, no way this guy gets any pus$y. im so awkward its crazyGreatHornedOwl said:Those approaches are so staged it isn't funny. Anyone who believes otherwise is an idiot. I don't know why this guy keeps posting this bullsh!t.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
thank you-- here's my confession..................... ITS REALDroz88 said:I've pulled similar interactions like this but they never lead to same day sex (except once but she was maybe a hb7). You guys saying this is fake don't realize how a woman will respond if she's attracted to you and you hit her buttons like he did in those videos. The reactions by those women are real, I've had them respond to me like that. Women absolutely want to get swept off their feet and that's what he did. Look at the small details in these vids...the sound of their laughs, the way he goes in 80% for the kiss and they come in for the last 20%...those are totally natural and real actions you cannot fake those. If you can't recognize this it's because you've never experienced it for yourself.
Instead of bashing him, be honest with yourselves about why you are choosing to believe that this is staged. That would be your best shot at actually helping yourselves by figuring out your own insecurities so you can work through them.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You should ask for his digits.zekko said:...you are clearly tall and fit with a good build, and that's attractive.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.