You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
no offense takenzekko said:Interesting that you get comments about your looks. Looks are subjective, of course, but you are clearly tall and fit with a good build, and that's attractive.
I kind of agree with Lavalamp that an unattractive guy doing the same thing might have a different reaction - the girl might even get irate and call for the manager or security lol.
I can kind of understand why you get some haters though. This will sound like an insult but I honestly don't mean it that way. There's something about your look and personality that suggests douchebag. Again, I don't mean that as an insult, I can't think of any other way to put it. A lot of guys have success with the douchebag approach - the Jersey Shore guys, for instance. It takes all kinds of people to make up the world. Ultimately, I think you get haters because of jealousy.
i know seriously, no way this guy gets any pus$y. im so awkward its crazyGreatHornedOwl said:Those approaches are so staged it isn't funny. Anyone who believes otherwise is an idiot. I don't know why this guy keeps posting this bullsh!t.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
thank you-- here's my confession..................... ITS REALDroz88 said:I've pulled similar interactions like this but they never lead to same day sex (except once but she was maybe a hb7). You guys saying this is fake don't realize how a woman will respond if she's attracted to you and you hit her buttons like he did in those videos. The reactions by those women are real, I've had them respond to me like that. Women absolutely want to get swept off their feet and that's what he did. Look at the small details in these vids...the sound of their laughs, the way he goes in 80% for the kiss and they come in for the last 20%...those are totally natural and real actions you cannot fake those. If you can't recognize this it's because you've never experienced it for yourself.
Instead of bashing him, be honest with yourselves about why you are choosing to believe that this is staged. That would be your best shot at actually helping yourselves by figuring out your own insecurities so you can work through them.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You should ask for his digits.zekko said:...you are clearly tall and fit with a good build, and that's attractive.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.