Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
no offense takenzekko said:Interesting that you get comments about your looks. Looks are subjective, of course, but you are clearly tall and fit with a good build, and that's attractive.
I kind of agree with Lavalamp that an unattractive guy doing the same thing might have a different reaction - the girl might even get irate and call for the manager or security lol.
I can kind of understand why you get some haters though. This will sound like an insult but I honestly don't mean it that way. There's something about your look and personality that suggests douchebag. Again, I don't mean that as an insult, I can't think of any other way to put it. A lot of guys have success with the douchebag approach - the Jersey Shore guys, for instance. It takes all kinds of people to make up the world. Ultimately, I think you get haters because of jealousy.
i know seriously, no way this guy gets any pus$y. im so awkward its crazyGreatHornedOwl said:Those approaches are so staged it isn't funny. Anyone who believes otherwise is an idiot. I don't know why this guy keeps posting this bullsh!t.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
thank you-- here's my confession..................... ITS REALDroz88 said:I've pulled similar interactions like this but they never lead to same day sex (except once but she was maybe a hb7). You guys saying this is fake don't realize how a woman will respond if she's attracted to you and you hit her buttons like he did in those videos. The reactions by those women are real, I've had them respond to me like that. Women absolutely want to get swept off their feet and that's what he did. Look at the small details in these vids...the sound of their laughs, the way he goes in 80% for the kiss and they come in for the last 20%...those are totally natural and real actions you cannot fake those. If you can't recognize this it's because you've never experienced it for yourself.
Instead of bashing him, be honest with yourselves about why you are choosing to believe that this is staged. That would be your best shot at actually helping yourselves by figuring out your own insecurities so you can work through them.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
You should ask for his digits.zekko said:...you are clearly tall and fit with a good build, and that's attractive.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.