"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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1st date I want action!!!

Bigworm

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so i set some raport with this girl the day before , should i call today so that i can take her on friday to the club? is the club even a good place for a first date? remember i dont like to talk to much on the first dates but i am a great dancer.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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DonJuanMonk

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Yeah do that, drink at least 3 drinks to get buzzed, tell her how much you wanna bang her.

You be DJ! :woo:
 

Scoiland

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a club isn't the greatest idea

If you want to limit the talking then you should take her on an action date.

Like go carting

However, the first date is all about talking you want to get to know the person that is why you are going out with them. You aren't there not to talk
 

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If you want action on the first date, get some food with her and go back to your place or her place. Start making out and go from there.

It's not like you're going to magically make her want to have sex with you the first time you meet up by picking some creative date. If she wants sex, she'll jump at the opportunity to be alone with you.
 

lebRambo

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Originally posted by Schlep
If you want action on the first date, get some food with her and go back to your place or her place. Start making out and go from there.

It's not like you're going to magically make her want to have sex with you the first time you meet up by picking some creative date. If she wants sex, she'll jump at the opportunity to be alone with you.
then theres always the chance that this dude isn't slick enough to get this chick so hot she forgets all about being a good girl and wants to f*ck right there.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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