Kyontate17
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hey guys what does it mean when a girl tells you that she loves u but we cant be together because she has problems?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
She means she loves you as a person,as who you are,but sexually,she feels no attraction for you.Kyontate17 said:hey guys what does it mean when a girl tells you that she loves u but we cant be together because she has problems?
If we're willing to help?Kyontate17 said:i will tell u the problem if ur willing to help?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Igetit! said:If we're willing to help?
Of course we are.
What,you think we want to see guys hurt or get rejected by women?
You think we want to make fun of you or something?
This forum is the only connection most of us will ever have to each other,and it's anonymus.
You getting the girl or not will not hinder or help our lives one way or the other.
That's why we're here,to aid each other where we can.
Go ahead and tell us what the problem is,but PLEASE,PLEASE,be exact.
Please include...
1:How long you've known this girl.
2:If you are currently dating her,or still trying to date her.
3:How often you two talk and WHAT YOU TALK ABOUT.
If nothing else,PLEASE answer number 3 ACCURATELY.
Include all this when you say what the problem is.
Hmm. Remember what I said in my first post about using this information in my signature? Don't do it. That doesn't apply here. You have a whole different problem on your hands with this girl.Kyontate17 said:well me an her been dating 5 months..but she cant have a boyfriend at all,so she broke up wit me 2 months ago but she was cryin because she broke up wit me because of her mom doesnt allow it and when she calls me but its short because she cant get caught and she sneaky has to get the phone because her mom caught her last time and it wasnt pretty.last week skool started and she called me a jerk because i didnt talk to her but i said hi.all week she looked depress on thursday i sat right next to her on the bus but didnt talk to her.she got mad and cryin and said "so u dont know me anymore" i ask wats wrong she was like whatever so i said fine then dont tell me,so we got off the bus going toour separate ways then she called my name we was talking she told me she was sorry and that she still has the winnie the pooh picture i drew her.i told her can we talk about this at home she said ok.she called me and told me that she has family problems and the doesnt like going home.she called me later talking about getting together,so i accepted.the next day it was going good an then she will get mad really easy.she wasnt like this before.then today she called me sayin "hey i love u and all but we cant be together because i have problems" i said ok,then she says "hey i love u"and yea i love u too.the end.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Excellent point, take that valuable advice!Igetit! said:There's no point to you having to be single/alone because her parents won't allow her to date.
i agree with this.evoken said:It means she's lying.