Kyontate17
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hey guys what does it mean when a girl tells you that she loves u but we cant be together because she has problems?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
She means she loves you as a person,as who you are,but sexually,she feels no attraction for you.Kyontate17 said:hey guys what does it mean when a girl tells you that she loves u but we cant be together because she has problems?
If we're willing to help?Kyontate17 said:i will tell u the problem if ur willing to help?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Igetit! said:If we're willing to help?
Of course we are.
What,you think we want to see guys hurt or get rejected by women?
You think we want to make fun of you or something?
This forum is the only connection most of us will ever have to each other,and it's anonymus.
You getting the girl or not will not hinder or help our lives one way or the other.
That's why we're here,to aid each other where we can.
Go ahead and tell us what the problem is,but PLEASE,PLEASE,be exact.
Please include...
1:How long you've known this girl.
2:If you are currently dating her,or still trying to date her.
3:How often you two talk and WHAT YOU TALK ABOUT.
If nothing else,PLEASE answer number 3 ACCURATELY.
Include all this when you say what the problem is.
Hmm. Remember what I said in my first post about using this information in my signature? Don't do it. That doesn't apply here. You have a whole different problem on your hands with this girl.Kyontate17 said:well me an her been dating 5 months..but she cant have a boyfriend at all,so she broke up wit me 2 months ago but she was cryin because she broke up wit me because of her mom doesnt allow it and when she calls me but its short because she cant get caught and she sneaky has to get the phone because her mom caught her last time and it wasnt pretty.last week skool started and she called me a jerk because i didnt talk to her but i said hi.all week she looked depress on thursday i sat right next to her on the bus but didnt talk to her.she got mad and cryin and said "so u dont know me anymore" i ask wats wrong she was like whatever so i said fine then dont tell me,so we got off the bus going toour separate ways then she called my name we was talking she told me she was sorry and that she still has the winnie the pooh picture i drew her.i told her can we talk about this at home she said ok.she called me and told me that she has family problems and the doesnt like going home.she called me later talking about getting together,so i accepted.the next day it was going good an then she will get mad really easy.she wasnt like this before.then today she called me sayin "hey i love u and all but we cant be together because i have problems" i said ok,then she says "hey i love u"and yea i love u too.the end.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Excellent point, take that valuable advice!Igetit! said:There's no point to you having to be single/alone because her parents won't allow her to date.
i agree with this.evoken said:It means she's lying.