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darksprezzatura

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Sorry guys. I haven’t been active here at all, I don’t remember if any of the OGs still hit this place or if anybody even remembers me.

I just came here for a quick update, or maybe to keep this post as a journal for myself.

This might seem like humble bragging, and maybe partially even is.

I work remotely, and I am sleeping with over 15 girls at the same time.

I travel different cities to sleep with a new girl, and then they tend to chase a bit even travel over to sleep with me.

In the last one month, I’ve slept with over 20 new girls, some of which don’t want to see me again, which is fine. But most are open to regular sex.

Now I have issues remembering their names and locations and their stories and who they are or what they do etc.

We have chatter about abundance, but for me, managing so many women is draining a lot of time and energy. It’s not how it looks like.

The chaos makes me drink way more regularly, I am not as focused on my work as I used to. Now I’m often happy if a woman cancels on me as that means I have time for myself or other women.

I want to go back to my dialled in headspace, focused on work, workout, health and diet. Getting some sun, good sleep. Make a new resume, leverage better income, build a business, invest in financial instruments. But I feel like I’m procrastinating and pvssy is my escape along with alcohol.

What I feel like doing is get some therapy, this is not a good way to live as other parts of my life are getting affected. Having options is great but there’s diminishing returns as well as a downward trend to quality of life after one point in time.
 

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What I feel like doing is get some therapy, this is not a good way to live as other parts of my life are getting affected. Having options is great but there’s diminishing returns as well as a downward trend to quality of life after one point in time.
Select three lovers you enjoy spending time with the most. Ditch the rest, spend more time by yourself and on yourself.
 

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Very interesting story!
It would be very curious to know how you see marriages and LTR's from your POV
I think I like the idea of having kids. A marriage has no real benefit to a man, except possibly making his partner more reassured and devoted if that’s even possible. The downside is huge with financial liabilities and so on.

I am open to an LTR. It’s definitely game on hard mode as I’d need my abundance mindset from internal validation than external as I do think of cheating as a weak behaviour.

I want a woman who is empathetic, caring, emotionally stable/string, has a high libido, tall, has things to do as in a life, career and so on. A strong family background is beneficial. These are gems. Physical standards are the same as regular guys, this waist big boobs, nice ass, flawless skin. This is a ten in my opinion.
 

Create self-fulfilling prophecies. Always assume the positive. Assume she likes you. Assume she wants to talk to you. Assume she wants to go out with you. When you think positive, positive things happen.

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No idea how you are doing this. I was physically drained trying to maintain 7-8 plates that I saw every 7-10 days after about a month.

My d!ck was literally sore from the constant usage...

I had to cut it down to like 3-4...luckily one dropped on their own and another one wasn't super interested so I just stopped seeing her.
 

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I could only handle 4. But I’m middle aged.
I have enough with three lovers, not because I cannot handle 4-5, but I like to spend time by myself, so more than three would take up too much time.
 

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In the last one month, I’ve slept with over 20 new girls, some of which don’t want to see me again, which is fine. But most are open to regular sex.
I'm not sure whether I should take this post seriously based on this piece right here...

I'll bet sex addicts, celebrities, and even some pornstars aren't getting it this much. 20 new women in a month means you're sleeping with a new woman a little less than every other day. I'd be curious what you do for work that allows you maintain this and whether you actually have standards with these women or if you're just taking whatever comes your way.
 

You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.

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I'm not sure whether I should take this post seriously based on this piece right here...

I'll bet sex addicts, celebrities, and even some pornstars aren't getting it this much. 20 new women in a month means you're sleeping with a new woman a little less than every other day. I'd be curious what you do for work that allows you maintain this and whether you actually have standards with these women or if you're just taking whatever comes your way.

It's premium BS, both OP and BackInTheGame.
 

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It's premium BS, both OP and BackInTheGame.
BackInTheGame I can buy. I've basically got 3 plates right, 4 if I felt like involving my ex again. For him to have double that isn't unbelievable - especially assuming he lives in a better part of the country and has his own place.

20 NEW women in a month is a bit insane though. I have a hard time believing that's possible without addiction, financial ruin, and low standards.
 

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It's premium BS, both OP and BackInTheGame.
If it wasn't true, that skeptic dude with the stupid name would be asking for receipts.
 

Men frequently err by talking too much. They often monopolize conversations, droning on and on about topics that bore women to tears. They think they're impressing the women when, in reality, they're depressing the women.

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Doesn't really narrow it down.
I think it starts with a C (but not that incel with the small c) and some buttplug measuring number at the end.
 
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CornBread50? Lol
No, that guy's a toddler, but you're heading in the right direction. I have no doubt that you figure it out, being the sharpest crayon in the box.
 

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Can we stop using the term "plates" what the hell does that really mean? Do you mean to say you are in constant contact with 15 women and are able to sleep with them at any given time? How often do you communicate with them and how do you stay in touch, text, social media, phone calls, or what?

I can barely handle 3 FWBs at once, 5+ would be impossible due to the mental drain... I would get their personal details and our history completely mixed up and keeping in contact with them would feel overwhelming. Even with 3 FWB i'd often mix up details about things they've said and done, and keeping the context of our history in my mind would seem impossible unless you literally do nothing but fvck then go your seperate ways every single time.
 

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So you've already ID'd the real problem. You are using sex as an escape alongside alcohol. One of my ex boyfriends was an enormous player previously. He talked about the difficulty in juggling 7-8 women and found it exhausting in short order. Like you he had trouble keeping information straight, and he had no time for himself....and he was retired!

Several bits of advice for you.

1. Consider trimming down the rotation to the few you most enjoy as others have suggested. If you miss the thrill of the hunt, figure out how best to scratch that itch or keep replacing girls with new ones until you find what you are looking for.

2. Your life is out of balance. Therapy, reduction of social schedule (women) and finding time for you could all be important to rebalance yourself. Find a therapist (if you go that route) who is non judgemental. You'd do best with a male.

3. Ask yourself WHY you seek so much external validation. Do you like you? Are you uncomfortable alone with your thoughts? Figure out why you are allowing yourself to careen out of balance.

4. A therapist is unlikely to have a grasp of the type of abundance you experience with women. May not understand "Thrill of the hunt" or the sexual conquest as your drug of choice, but such a person can help you wrestle the deeper issues driving those behaviors.

5. Come here to vent and discuss the chick issues. Many of the old guard are gone, but some still pop in from time to time. There will always be those who doubt your story as they cannot imagine having the experiences you are having.

Being a player becomes an empty existance after awhile. Many men who have never experienced that kind of abundance and seek after that as a pinnacle of dating have no idea the meaninglessness and emptiness that accompanies that lifestyle after awhile. It boils down to hedonism, and most people who devolve into hedonism are consumed by it. And that's not a good outcome.

Nice to see you & hope some of that resonates. You gotta find something intrinsically meaningful to put your energy into. And you've got to learn more about who you are and find internal validation. Figure those two things out & you'll purge the chaos from your life.
 
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