"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Also, I don't think it's the way I dress. I have expensive clothing. My jacket goes for 600$. Shoes go for about 200-250... Shirts are about 75$ a piece and my car is worth 30k not that expensive but it's pretty good for a 20 year old. My parents are rich. I don't tell girls that though.

I think like you all said, rapport first. And move on. Don't act like a loser. My confidence was a little shaken yesterdat
 

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Based on their texts, these women look like real pieces of work for any DJ. They seem to text with with the attention span and writing skills of a house fly.
 

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stop having these EXTREME female mood swings OP ie "Im just going to delete there numbers" if im right its still under 24 hours since your last reply from this woman ? pull yaself together!!!!!!! she owes you nothing she hasnt led you on or the like.... just dont do any pursue texts ffs whatever you do
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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you will never get anywhere with women by being socially inept. thats chick kryptonite. that should be your main priority to work on.

that eliot rodger guy everyone keeps bringing up? that was his problem. he was a social retard. it was that simple.

even on this forum you can seperate the men that have experience and good social skills just by the way they write.

men are logical by nature and too a FAULT. which becomes counter-productive with teh wiminz. some guys here are debating with essays and powerpoints just to get their point across. theres no style in their writing, no type of attitude, theyre as dry as the ginas in the world around them. i wouldnt ever bring one of these guys with me to women, imagine how women must feel about them lmao

start talking to people. to everyone. for no reason. just learn to be a positive, pleasant person. say good morning to the construction worker on your commute. ask a cashier or waitress how her day is going.learn some empathy. when people talk to you, dont give opinions or offer advice. just listen to them. learn what things are socially acceptable to talk about and what is taboo. pay attention to peoples emotional states etc etc theres so much you can do to fix your social awakrdness. like anything else you just need to practice it
No see. I can carry out a conversation with copious amounts of people. Without it being awkward. When I'm typing on forums, I typically do not care for my writing style or grammar. But when it comes to academic papers, and such, I will write like a genius. One of the things I noticed people telling me is that, I'm very well spoken, and usually use big words.. Or that I'm too formal. But this is the way I am. So if I come off that way to some stupid chick, they would be turned off or think I'm a nerd. Maybe some may like it.

I'm 6"1, 150 lb, and look a little Indian - maybe I may be stereotyped within the first interaction.

I was the guy that would study 8-10 hours a day last semester. Despite that, my conversational skills are not bad. I've also been told I'm very mature for my age. Hence, I have a lot of friends that are in the masters program.

The girls that seem to be interested in me are typically around their mid twenties. Not many around the age of 18-20..

I think my issue is, I overthink everything.
 
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So you're rich, a genius writer, over 6 feet tall, studying to be a doctor, and very well spoken yet you're on a forum asking for assistance in getting women. Anyone else see something wrong with this?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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No see. I can carry out a conversation with copious amounts of people. Without it being awkward. When I'm typing on forums, I typically do not care for my writing style or grammar. But when it comes to academic papers, and such, I will write like a genius. One of the things I noticed people telling me is that, I'm very well spoken, and usually use big words.. Or that I'm too formal. But this is the way I am. So if I come off that way to some stupid chick, they would be turned off or think I'm a nerd. Maybe some may like it.

I'm 6"1, 150 lb, and look a little Indian - maybe I may be stereotyped within the first interaction.

I was the guy that would study 8-10 hours a day last semester. Despite that, my conversational skills are not bad. I've also been told I'm very mature for my age. Hence, I have a lot of friends that are in the masters program.

The girls that seem to be interested in me are typically around their mid twenties. Not many around the age of 18-20..

I think my issue is, I overthink everything.
Talk to women the same way you'd talk to your little baby sisters. All of that formality and technical jibberish is going to bore them. One thing that the analytical types have a hard time grasping is that conversation with women needs to pierce their minds and emotions. Weren't you playful and spontaneous as a child? Nothing's changed.

This doesn't mean you need to be silly or dumb yourself down. It just means, you need to have some restraint on your formal and technical tendencies. It means that if she says something that makes you want to start explaining something in detail, just don't do it. It also means to start speaking less and stop using formal "filler" sentences. If I could critique the last image of your text you posted, I'd say that she was too cool and you were too caring. She basically texted 3 and 1/4th words to you in comparison to what you texted. From this point on, I'd guess the rest of her texts are her just being cordial.

Your first step is to stop thinking that women who are bored of your conversations are "stupid." I mean...there's a chance that they actually are stupid, but you have to remember that they're just responding to you. Unless a chick is a real nerd herself, the majority of women will find your way of speaking pretty boring and perhaps a bit try hard.
 

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then its time to stop telling yourself "this is just who i am"

its very possible to change the way you think of yourself.

"hey, i can be fun and not all serious all the time, why not?"

as you think, you shall become

personality is malleable. our environment and experiences shapes it. but we can also shape it ourselves.

maybe make some friends that are hip and cool and not in the same circle as your pre-med minded academic buddies. (im not saying hang out with losers)

just hang out with guys that are good with girls. there is no better teacher than watching how its done.

although there is chick groupies for everything (even Dungeons and Dragons) save the serious formal stuff for your profession. it hardly matters with women
Its going to take time, but I'm going to work on it.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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maybe im not that attractive as i carry myself to be then
In all seriousness, have you ever thought about finishing med school then concentrating on women? We all have to take some time away from women in order to order to reach personal goals and unfortunately I've seen women stall or even derail a guy's future. You're young dude. I wouldn't go too far out of your way just to get chicks.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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