doctor1996
Senior Don Juan
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I'm just going to delete their numbers. **** them, I'll find more girls. I'm not desperate. I'm good
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Exactly. I'm just going to move on.Based on their texts, these women look like real pieces of work for any DJ. They seem to text with with the attention span and writing skills of a house fly.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
No see. I can carry out a conversation with copious amounts of people. Without it being awkward. When I'm typing on forums, I typically do not care for my writing style or grammar. But when it comes to academic papers, and such, I will write like a genius. One of the things I noticed people telling me is that, I'm very well spoken, and usually use big words.. Or that I'm too formal. But this is the way I am. So if I come off that way to some stupid chick, they would be turned off or think I'm a nerd. Maybe some may like it.you will never get anywhere with women by being socially inept. thats chick kryptonite. that should be your main priority to work on.
that eliot rodger guy everyone keeps bringing up? that was his problem. he was a social retard. it was that simple.
even on this forum you can seperate the men that have experience and good social skills just by the way they write.
men are logical by nature and too a FAULT. which becomes counter-productive with teh wiminz. some guys here are debating with essays and powerpoints just to get their point across. theres no style in their writing, no type of attitude, theyre as dry as the ginas in the world around them. i wouldnt ever bring one of these guys with me to women, imagine how women must feel about them lmao
start talking to people. to everyone. for no reason. just learn to be a positive, pleasant person. say good morning to the construction worker on your commute. ask a cashier or waitress how her day is going.learn some empathy. when people talk to you, dont give opinions or offer advice. just listen to them. learn what things are socially acceptable to talk about and what is taboo. pay attention to peoples emotional states etc etc theres so much you can do to fix your social awakrdness. like anything else you just need to practice it
I would like to expand my options, but that is the difficult part.so would you rather expand your options of women who like you for not being so proper and formal all the time or are you ok with limiting yourself and waiting around for only those types?
i dont know whats wrong with meSo you're rich, a genius writer, over 6 feet tall, studying to be a doctor, and very well spoken yet you're on a forum asking for assistance in getting women. Anyone else see something wrong with this?
maybe im not that attractive as i carry myself to be thenSo you're rich, a genius writer, over 6 feet tall, studying to be a doctor, and very well spoken yet you're on a forum asking for assistance in getting women. Anyone else see something wrong with this?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Seems like you have the business side of life down pat, but struggle with the pleasure aspect. Do you ever cut loose in social situations?i dont know whats wrong with me
Dude, unless that rationale is causing you to come off as pompous and arrogant, kill that noise.maybe im not that attractive as i carry myself to be then
Dude, unless that rational ..
Talk to women the same way you'd talk to your little baby sisters. All of that formality and technical jibberish is going to bore them. One thing that the analytical types have a hard time grasping is that conversation with women needs to pierce their minds and emotions. Weren't you playful and spontaneous as a child? Nothing's changed.No see. I can carry out a conversation with copious amounts of people. Without it being awkward. When I'm typing on forums, I typically do not care for my writing style or grammar. But when it comes to academic papers, and such, I will write like a genius. One of the things I noticed people telling me is that, I'm very well spoken, and usually use big words.. Or that I'm too formal. But this is the way I am. So if I come off that way to some stupid chick, they would be turned off or think I'm a nerd. Maybe some may like it.
I'm 6"1, 150 lb, and look a little Indian - maybe I may be stereotyped within the first interaction.
I was the guy that would study 8-10 hours a day last semester. Despite that, my conversational skills are not bad. I've also been told I'm very mature for my age. Hence, I have a lot of friends that are in the masters program.
The girls that seem to be interested in me are typically around their mid twenties. Not many around the age of 18-20..
I think my issue is, I overthink everything.
Its going to take time, but I'm going to work on it.then its time to stop telling yourself "this is just who i am"
its very possible to change the way you think of yourself.
"hey, i can be fun and not all serious all the time, why not?"
as you think, you shall become
personality is malleable. our environment and experiences shapes it. but we can also shape it ourselves.
maybe make some friends that are hip and cool and not in the same circle as your pre-med minded academic buddies. (im not saying hang out with losers)
just hang out with guys that are good with girls. there is no better teacher than watching how its done.
although there is chick groupies for everything (even Dungeons and Dragons) save the serious formal stuff for your profession. it hardly matters with women
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Try toSeems like you have the business side of life down pat, but struggle with the pleasure aspect. Do you ever cut loose in social situations?
What business side?Seems like you have the business side of life down pat, but struggle with the pleasure aspect. Do you ever cut loose in social situations?
I wasn't in the situation where I had to.What business side?
He's a schoolboy whose never earned a dollar or worked a day in his life.
Was referring to his handling his business and ambition in regards to his studies and pursuing his career.What business side?
He's a schoolboy whose never earned a dollar or worked a day in his life.
In all seriousness, have you ever thought about finishing med school then concentrating on women? We all have to take some time away from women in order to order to reach personal goals and unfortunately I've seen women stall or even derail a guy's future. You're young dude. I wouldn't go too far out of your way just to get chicks.maybe im not that attractive as i carry myself to be then
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.