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[doctor1996]

Every girl I've talked to so far with the help of this site has been a solid 9-10. I would post pictures, but I don't want to ruin their anonymity. Regardless, here is what is going on. I can get their number instantly, but over text, I fail miserably. I just don't know. I've tried the direct approach 2-3 times and if has failed me 2-3 times. But picking up the number wasn't an issue for me. Recently talked to this girl who's a 15/10, got her number Wednesday, and was direct with her and she flaked on me. I showed all my friends, and their amazed how I can get someone's number who is so attractive. Now, I feel like **** because I don't have any more options, and I kind of blew my opportunity with this chick. Any advice guys?

 

[jaymbrs]

What kind of responses do you get from them? What do you mean you fail miserably?

 

[lizardking82]

Only advice you need: stop taking numbers from chicks who are attractive to other people, start taking numbers of chicks who are attractive to you.

 

[doctor1996]

Listen. I find them attractive. I don't go off the basis of my friends. And in fact this girl started talking to me. And it is known fact she is a babe. Regardless, when I mean I fail miserably l, after 3-4 texts I asked them to get coffee. I usually get a I have to check my schedule, or they stop responding.

 

[lizardking82]

Could you show us an example of what you texted this last girl? Screenshots?

 

[doctor1996]

Numbers from where?

From girls?

 

[doctor1996]

Screenshot

 

[jaymbrs]

From girls?

He meant how, as in online? In person? Through social circles?

 

[doctor1996]

In person

 

[lizardking82]

I think that is way too generic of a message. Just my 2 cents. I would spend 10-15 mins back and forth and then in the end you make the invitation. Heck, if you wanted to, you could have a short conversation there and ease into it.

That is the way pick up artists chase girls. Don't chase them like that, they already updated with that ****.

 

[RedScorpion]

Might be contrary to some advice, but seems like it's too direct imo. I'd break it up into two parts at least. Ask if she wants to grab a coffee (or you can add today, or tomorrow) - then establish a time and day that is good for both of you. Suggest the day/time, but remain flexible - "How does 2:30 at starbucks sound?".

What lizardking82 has said is good as well. Like when she said 'Great n yours' - You can bring up something in your studies you're doing. Studying for midterm or a paper or something similar. Doesn't have to be super exciting - but in the above case, she's learning more about what you're focused on and what you are pursuing (showing ambition and determination - vs "Yeah I was playing CoD, scored 15-1 KD!" etc.). She mentions something, you ask her about whatever you learned from her when you talked with her last... etc.

 

[Macaframalama]

Screenshot

Way too soon. I would back and forth a little more and try to throw some banter in there, then hit her with the text you sent, closing out. Check out the e-book "Text Appeal" on Amazon.

 

[doctor1996]

I feel like a retard right now

 

[doctor1996]

I really feel embarrassed right now

 

[lizardking82]

No need to feel embarrassed, dude. You should feel lucky you got a community of guys here tellin' you how to grow

 

[doctor1996]

No need to feel embarrassed, dude. You should feel lucky you got a community of guys here tellin' you how to grow

Just the fact that she was so so so so beautiful and my arrogance and confidence ruined it

 

[lizardking82]

It's not a matter of confidence, you were just too generic, that's all. No big deal, there's a ton of beautiful women around the corner. Do what you've done up to now to get the numbers and then become more human in the conversation part.

 

[Macaframalama]

Don't feel that way man. Give it 3 or 4 days, before texting again. Build some rapport and then ASK if she would like to go out, then be specific with time and place if she says yes. I usually take a direct approach myself, when "asking", but she probably feels a little boxed in, when you hit her with your last text. She was thrown out of her comfort zone most likely.

 

[doctor1996]

Guys I went against you, and I texted saying, so many midterms! are you going back over break?

She said Nooo
Right

I then asked how are you feeling about your midterms?

 

[RedScorpion]

Lol just chill. It may suck ass, but it's fine. It's great you're doing the mistakes now, you're getting outside your comfort zone. Your future self will relish in the experience and lessons you're getting now.

Even if **** totally hits the fan, feel a bit of pride in yourself.