100% calibration with women - Buying Temperature

[tksniper]

Women are often seen as fickle in romance. But they are not. It’s more like guys are oblivious to a woman’s buying temperature. A woman’s buying temperature has to be at 80%+ before you can attempt it to escalate the interaction.

Only the best salesmen in the world and the best seducers in the world are totally in tune with the buying temperature of their targets.

Most people are completely miscalibrated.

Here are some of examples of miscalibration:

1- You attempt to approach a woman and she’s just nice to you out of social reflex. You attempt to escalate and get rejected.

2- You approach a woman and she’s interested but you fail to escalate.

Both of these guys are clueless to a woman’s being temperature.

The only time you can escalate is when her buying temperature is 80%+. And vice versa. If her buying temperature is over 80% and you don’t escalate, she will deem you as not used to attractive women and will catergorize you as a non fvckabke guy. And if her buying temperature is below 80% and you try to escalate, you will come across as a creep.

Whenever I approach a woman, I know instantly what her buying temperature is. I would know if it’s workable or a long shot.

If you remove your ego and projections, a woman’s buying temperature is always crystal clear, right in front of your face.

 

[BaronOfHair]

@tksniper "Both of these guys are clueless to a woman’s being temperature"

A problem who's remedy is only a Walgren's away. All a fella need do is

-Purchase a baby thermometer

-Keep said thermometer and petroleum jelly on him at all times

-Instruct any and every gal who catches his eye to drop trow, bend over, and spread 'dem cheeks wider than The Grand Canyon

Simultaneously, you'll be gauging her readiness to submit, with a strong degree of accuracy

 

[Bingo-Player]

Problem is some women genuinely enjoy playing games and they will also fein interest in exchange for attention

 

[Bigpapa]

Problem is some women genuinely enjoy playing games and they will also fein interest in exchange for attention

Though long term yields better results to assume attraction and escalate compliance , rather than having second thoughts if she is actually interested or just in for the attention

usually compliance will give you a good indication of where you stand on this spectrum

 

[Bingo-Player]

Though long term yields better results to assume attraction and escalate compliance , rather than having second thoughts if she is actually interested or just in for the attention

usually compliance will give you a good indication of where you stand on this spectrum

Yea agreed thats usually the basis I work on

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Though long term yields better results to assume attraction and escalate compliance , rather than having second thoughts if she is actually interested or just in for the attention

usually compliance will give you a good indication of where you stand on this spectrum

Yea agreed thats usually the basis I work on

Compliance alone isn't enough, you also need to incorporate touching using an escalation ladder to make sure she is physically receptive without hang-ups

 

[Barrister]

Not saying you are wrong OP -- because there are plenty of times this is correct. But make no mistake, plenty of women are "fickle" with romance and just fickle people in general. I will go a step further, and say they are downright histrionic when it comes to all things -- not just romance.

Yes, there are many men who have zero clue how to read a woman's body language or her tone of voice and fail to understand what is happening. But women certainly are just as, if not more, guilty of the problems with being validation wh*res and sending mixed signals in general. It goes both ways.

 

[tksniper]

Not saying you are wrong OP -- because there are plenty of times this is correct. But make no mistake, plenty of women are "fickle" with romance and just fickle people in general. I will go a step further, and say they are downright histrionic when it comes to all things -- not just romance.

Yes, there are many men who have zero clue how to read a woman's body language or her tone of voice and fail to understand what is happening. But women certainly are just as, if not more, guilty of the problems with being validation wh*res and sending mixed signals in general. It goes both ways.

I think you are mistaking a woman’s social conditioning vs her buying temperature. A woman can feel attraction towards you and show it in her body language but her social conditioning would cause her to play it safe and play hard to get.

Once you get over the whole “buying temperature” level of calibration, you would run into another obstacle. Attaction is a woman’s interest in you v.s her social conditioning. You his is when trust comes to play.

But most guys aren’t calibrate so they either assume the woman isn’t attracted so they try harder. Or they try to escalate without trust.

The equation is simple and universal. It exists in both sales and seduction. Attraction + trust = escalation/close.

So I guess the next big question is how do you create trust?

 

[Sega Genesis]

Agree with @tksniper especially as it relates to attraction and trust.

But to add...

I am sure most of you are aware of the saying "feelings are fluid" which is true for both women and men.

When it applies to women, it often gets mistaken for being fickle when in fact it's just the natural state of allowing different feelings and emotions to flow through your body/mind with flexibility versus rigidity.

From Psychology Today

>>"Emotional fluidity is the capacity to experience all emotions fully and allow them to move/flow through your body and mind without resistance or stagnation.

Core Characteristics

1. Dynamic states: You view various feelings/emotions as weather patterns—like a thunderstorm that arrives, peaks, and passes—rather than fixed or permanent conditions.

2. Embodied experience: Instead of detaching, numbing yourself or becoming reactive or defensive, you actively feel and welcome different emotions and sensations (including sadness, anger, or grief for example) within yourself and others with understanding and without judgment.

3. Natural transitions: You shift naturally from one emotional state to another (such as crying and then laughing a few minutes later) without getting stuck or frozen.

How It Differs From Other Concepts

Emotional Intelligence: Focuses on recognizing, labeling, and understanding what you feel. Emotional fluidity is the actual practice of letting that feeling/emotion move through your mind and body to its natural completion.

Emotional Regulation: Focuses on modulating or controlling your outward responses. Emotional fluidity focuses on flexibility and letting the energy flow rather than tightly managing or suppressing it."<<

I have found that when it comes to attraction many men don't understand this and immediately jump to - she's fickle!

No guys she is not being fickle in most cases (some sure ) it's just her natural and healthy state of being emotionally fluid versus rigidly holding tightly to one emotion with no flexibility or movement, similar to a robot that's been programmed to react and respond in a certain way all the time, no diversion, no flexibility, no movement.

Personally I can't think of anything more boring or less exciting and challenging.

But hey if it's what you want and prefer in a partner (or plate) or whatever, have at it and good luck.

P.S. I am not discounting those women who are fickle as it's defined, who don't know what or who the hell they want, typically very young woman whose brains haven't been fully developed yet who flit around from one guy to another totally unaware of what they're feeling, if anything

But there is a difference between being "fickle" and "emotionally fluid" that's all I'm sayin in addition to what @tksniper said.

$.02

 

[Barrister]

I think you are mistaking a woman’s social conditioning vs her buying temperature. A woman can feel attraction towards you and show it in her body language but her social conditioning would cause her to play it safe and play hard to get.

Once you get over the whole “buying temperature” level of calibration, you would run into another obstacle. Attaction is a woman’s interest in you v.s her social conditioning. You his is when trust comes to play.

But most guys aren’t calibrate so they either assume the woman isn’t attracted so they try harder. Or they try to escalate without trust.

The equation is simple and universal. It exists in both sales and seduction. Attraction + trust = escalation/close.

So I guess the next big question is how do you create trust?

Your premise (or one of them anyway) in your OP was that it wasn’t women who are “fickle”in romance but men. That is a statement that I responded is sometimes true, but most of the time isn’t. It isn’t that I disagree with some of the things you’re saying, but the statement that men are uniformly more “fickle” in dating than women I absolutely will disagree with. It is usually the other way around and I wouldn’t say it’s close.