Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I can 2nd that, probably worse than saying ''I Love You''. This is a NO, NO.K.Pez said:Never say: "Obviously I am more attracted to you than you are to me"
One of my buddies said this to a girl he was trying to get with and my jaw dropped. This is an instant deal breaker.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Wrong. Try "I love you dearly!"Nutz said:0. "I like you."
No single phrase will destroy a woman's attraction for a man better than this one.
Does that count for "not believing in love?", "Not wanting children?", "Only being in a relationship for sex?" and last and by no means least "wanting to maintain a bachleor lifestyle?". If so, then that's explains all of my problems.f283000 said:here is 1 more
NEVER SAY YOU DON'T BELIEVE IN MARRIAGE: It's fine if you don't and it's ok if you say this to your buddies, just don't ever say this where women might hear you. Try to keep this little belief of yours to yourself for your own good.
Say you've diagnosed with cancer and underwent surgery.Originally Posted by Energizer
Does that count for "not believing in love?", "Not wanting children?", "Only being in a relationship for sex?" and last and by no means least "wanting to maintain a bachleor lifestyle?". If so, then that's explains all of my problems.
YES...it counts for "not believing in love"!!!
When it comes to love, you need not believe the hype...for some reason, people in western society choose to remain blind, thinking love is "the reason" for living, that love makes their world go 'round...well, it ain't!
CASH makes the world go 'round baby...
The simple truth is, love doesn't matter that much.
Espi said:LOVE is a hyperbole, a post-modern myth...money isn't everything, but it's the key to happiness...
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Say you've diagnosed with cancer and underwent surgery.Originally Posted by Energizer
Does that count for "not believing in love?", "Not wanting children?", "Only being in a relationship for sex?" and last and by no means least "wanting to maintain a bachleor lifestyle?". If so, then that's explains all of my problems.
YES...it counts for "not believing in love"!!!
When it comes to love, you need not believe the hype...for some reason, people in western society choose to remain blind, thinking love is "the reason" for living, that love makes their world go 'round...well, it ain't!
CASH makes the world go 'round baby...
The simple truth is, love doesn't matter that much.
Someone that loves you sticks with you through the hard times and supports you.Your girlfriend may LOVE you...but she LOVES MONEY, too. If you lose your job...you lose money...and then you lose your GF...or your wife...and you may love her to death...but if you're broke...you lose her.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
It's close to 60% now, with (IIRC) the vast majority initiated by women. The good news is that if you drill into the data, the majority of 1st marriages actually stay married still. So wait until you're sure and pick a woman who's young and always been single, if you must propose.Espi said:... remember this: 50 per cent of marraiges end in divorce...and the men who are able to stay married probably cheat on their wives...and most men that I know are miserable being married...
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.