"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
10 things NEVER to say to a woman
- Thread starter Colossus
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Phenomenal One
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never EVER say that when replying to a chick when she says "So, what you doin ?".
HeyPachuco!
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I can 2nd that, probably worse than saying ''I Love You''. This is a NO, NO.K.Pez said:
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Best to not beat around the bush and be direct about this very serious personal principle.
Timing is everything, however. I wouldn't drop this bomb in the first few dates...I might be a little more diplomatic about it. In other words, you don't have to lie, but say something along the lines of "well I'm not convinced marriage is right for me just yet. I'm very happy with my life now and I'd like to let things unfold." This way, you aren't coming off as a "commitment-phobe" and you aren't being dishonest. Later on, if you get more comfortable with each other, you can be more succinct with your opinions.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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Wrong. Try "I love you dearly!"Nutz said:
Men ain't supposed to say I love you, men are supposed to say I love you TOO!
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Does that count for "not believing in love?", "Not wanting children?", "Only being in a relationship for sex?" and last and by no means least "wanting to maintain a bachleor lifestyle?". If so, then that's explains all of my problems.f283000 said:
But then women say they want honesty and of course these pieces of vagiseal clearly don't want honesty, they want lies, abuse, hatred and venom because they are more than likely mental.
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Blusher
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Say you've diagnosed with cancer and underwent surgery.
Then all the money in the world will not make up for this frustration of seeing this other guy on the ward getting daily visits from the woman that loves and supports him.
You'll just be rambling to yourself and cursing the day you were born.
As a matter of fact, you wouldn't even talk about it the way you do had you ever been truly loved by anyone. I doubt that would happen in the near future either since hatred and cynism only breeds more hatred.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Blusher
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Say you've diagnosed with cancer and underwent surgery.
Then all the money in the world will not make up for this frustration of seeing this other guy on the ward getting daily visits from the woman that loves and supports him.
You'll just be rambling to yourself and cursing the day you were born.
As a matter of fact, you wouldn't even talk about it the way you do had you ever been truly loved by anyone. I doubt that would happen in the near future either since hatred and cynism only breeds more hatred.
kingy
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I like you
or
I love you
anytime after sex. if you are cool enough guy then it wont make a jott of difference. if you arent rock solid tho, its usually best to let the girl escalate the level of intimacy between you
Blusher
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Someone that loves you sticks with you through the hard times and supports you.
My parents have been together for 40 years and none of them bailed out when things weren't rosy financially or heathwise.
Otherwise, what's the relationship worth?
Don Israel
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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It's close to 60% now, with (IIRC) the vast majority initiated by women. The good news is that if you drill into the data, the majority of 1st marriages actually stay married still. So wait until you're sure and pick a woman who's young and always been single, if you must propose.Espi said:
Also, only 20% of marriages by American men to foreign women end in divorce. Food for thought.
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Thanks for bringing me into the new decade with this!
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My girlfriend said I love you to me last night, and I was pretty drunk and didn't know what to say, so I said I love you too. Haha now nothing has changed, and she's still sooo into me, but what if she says it again? Any advice on how to handle that?
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Thanks.
I've tried ignoring the guy friends and not being "insecure" and it doesn't work. Too many problems that way. Again I can see where the theory would come from but it doesn't translate into real dating.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.