She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I can 2nd that, probably worse than saying ''I Love You''. This is a NO, NO.K.Pez said:Never say: "Obviously I am more attracted to you than you are to me"
One of my buddies said this to a girl he was trying to get with and my jaw dropped. This is an instant deal breaker.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Wrong. Try "I love you dearly!"Nutz said:0. "I like you."
No single phrase will destroy a woman's attraction for a man better than this one.
Does that count for "not believing in love?", "Not wanting children?", "Only being in a relationship for sex?" and last and by no means least "wanting to maintain a bachleor lifestyle?". If so, then that's explains all of my problems.f283000 said:here is 1 more
NEVER SAY YOU DON'T BELIEVE IN MARRIAGE: It's fine if you don't and it's ok if you say this to your buddies, just don't ever say this where women might hear you. Try to keep this little belief of yours to yourself for your own good.
Say you've diagnosed with cancer and underwent surgery.Originally Posted by Energizer
Does that count for "not believing in love?", "Not wanting children?", "Only being in a relationship for sex?" and last and by no means least "wanting to maintain a bachleor lifestyle?". If so, then that's explains all of my problems.
YES...it counts for "not believing in love"!!!
When it comes to love, you need not believe the hype...for some reason, people in western society choose to remain blind, thinking love is "the reason" for living, that love makes their world go 'round...well, it ain't!
CASH makes the world go 'round baby...
The simple truth is, love doesn't matter that much.
Espi said:LOVE is a hyperbole, a post-modern myth...money isn't everything, but it's the key to happiness...
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Say you've diagnosed with cancer and underwent surgery.Originally Posted by Energizer
Does that count for "not believing in love?", "Not wanting children?", "Only being in a relationship for sex?" and last and by no means least "wanting to maintain a bachleor lifestyle?". If so, then that's explains all of my problems.
YES...it counts for "not believing in love"!!!
When it comes to love, you need not believe the hype...for some reason, people in western society choose to remain blind, thinking love is "the reason" for living, that love makes their world go 'round...well, it ain't!
CASH makes the world go 'round baby...
The simple truth is, love doesn't matter that much.
Someone that loves you sticks with you through the hard times and supports you.Your girlfriend may LOVE you...but she LOVES MONEY, too. If you lose your job...you lose money...and then you lose your GF...or your wife...and you may love her to death...but if you're broke...you lose her.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
It's close to 60% now, with (IIRC) the vast majority initiated by women. The good news is that if you drill into the data, the majority of 1st marriages actually stay married still. So wait until you're sure and pick a woman who's young and always been single, if you must propose.Espi said:... remember this: 50 per cent of marraiges end in divorce...and the men who are able to stay married probably cheat on their wives...and most men that I know are miserable being married...
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.