You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
The way your post sounds, I would imagine you'd think that no guy needs help. So, what are legitimate cases in your view?5string said:Des
I get what you are saying about men being ignored and the emphasis is on women....because they are women. I get the point.
But granted, some people need help and should get it no doubt.
How do you figure that? What about the ecomony? What about all the jobs being shipped to India and China and the shrinking middle-class? You've got a nation of haves and have nots. Statistically, most of the wealth is concentrated into a few hands.5string said:If one in three single guys needs goverment assistance in Canada, that tells me that they have one bigtime fvcked up entitlement system there.
Yes, he should go and panhandle for change on a busy street, rob a bank, join organized crime, or break and enter people's homes. Having no other options, as you said, a man should take care of himself first. That way, tax-payers can subsidize jail costs, hey maybe a lawsuit for millions of dollars against the system for unfair treatment against the police or system.5string said:Boo fvcking hoo.
A man should step up and take care of himself first and foremost, and not rely on his fellow taxpayers to subsidize his bad decisions and lifestyle.
But why shouldn't a woman have to do the same? About the only way a man can take care of himself is with a job, which is easier for a woman to get. Men have not only an unfair and unlevel playing field, but a sometime no field out to get into the game. Plus a female can always shack up with a man to support her.5string said:Des
I get what you are saying about men being ignored and the emphasis is on women....because they are women. I get the point.
But granted, some people need help and should get it no doubt. If one in three single guys needs goverment assistance in Canada, that tells me that they have one bigtime fvcked up entitlement system there.
Boo fvcking hoo.
A man should step up and take care of himself first and foremost, and not rely on his fellow taxpayers to subsidize his bad decisions and lifestyle.
It has nothing to do with it practically. But it is commentary on why women can function without men. Seduction is tied to economics. When women didn't have so much economic choices, they had a strong incentive to attract and cling to men. Women will working the pvssy for economic reasons. All this feminism and social leanings to give women economic advantage is largely so they don't have to work their sexuality.Zarky said:what does this have to do with seduction?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Nothing, but here's the description of what is acceptable in this forum:Zarky said:what does this have to do with seduction?
I pity guys who believe cvnt is the only thing worth fighting for or discussing.Zarky said:what does this have to do with seduction?
So this is a place to discuss prostate problems and liver spots too?Desdinova said:Nothing, but here's the description of what is acceptable in this forum:
A forum for DJs at least 25 years old to discuss problems, situations, and techniques UNIQUE to older and more mature men.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.