Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
The way your post sounds, I would imagine you'd think that no guy needs help. So, what are legitimate cases in your view?5string said:Des
I get what you are saying about men being ignored and the emphasis is on women....because they are women. I get the point.
But granted, some people need help and should get it no doubt.
How do you figure that? What about the ecomony? What about all the jobs being shipped to India and China and the shrinking middle-class? You've got a nation of haves and have nots. Statistically, most of the wealth is concentrated into a few hands.5string said:If one in three single guys needs goverment assistance in Canada, that tells me that they have one bigtime fvcked up entitlement system there.
Yes, he should go and panhandle for change on a busy street, rob a bank, join organized crime, or break and enter people's homes. Having no other options, as you said, a man should take care of himself first. That way, tax-payers can subsidize jail costs, hey maybe a lawsuit for millions of dollars against the system for unfair treatment against the police or system.5string said:Boo fvcking hoo.
A man should step up and take care of himself first and foremost, and not rely on his fellow taxpayers to subsidize his bad decisions and lifestyle.
But why shouldn't a woman have to do the same? About the only way a man can take care of himself is with a job, which is easier for a woman to get. Men have not only an unfair and unlevel playing field, but a sometime no field out to get into the game. Plus a female can always shack up with a man to support her.5string said:Des
I get what you are saying about men being ignored and the emphasis is on women....because they are women. I get the point.
But granted, some people need help and should get it no doubt. If one in three single guys needs goverment assistance in Canada, that tells me that they have one bigtime fvcked up entitlement system there.
Boo fvcking hoo.
A man should step up and take care of himself first and foremost, and not rely on his fellow taxpayers to subsidize his bad decisions and lifestyle.
It has nothing to do with it practically. But it is commentary on why women can function without men. Seduction is tied to economics. When women didn't have so much economic choices, they had a strong incentive to attract and cling to men. Women will working the pvssy for economic reasons. All this feminism and social leanings to give women economic advantage is largely so they don't have to work their sexuality.Zarky said:what does this have to do with seduction?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Nothing, but here's the description of what is acceptable in this forum:Zarky said:what does this have to do with seduction?
I pity guys who believe cvnt is the only thing worth fighting for or discussing.Zarky said:what does this have to do with seduction?
So this is a place to discuss prostate problems and liver spots too?Desdinova said:Nothing, but here's the description of what is acceptable in this forum:
A forum for DJs at least 25 years old to discuss problems, situations, and techniques UNIQUE to older and more mature men.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.