Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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1-10 scale for men?

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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penkitten said:
Every woman has her own 1-10 scale to judge a man that she meets.
Perhaps it would be best to explain by a woman's senses.
(what she sees, hears, smells, tastes and feels. )

What does she see when she looks at you? She sees what you look like, if you are attractive, if you are physically fit, if you take pride and groom yourself, she sees your poise and what you are wearing.
Every person finds certain physical traits attractive and other traits unattractive. You know you are not always going to be everybody's cup of tea. However, you should try to keep themselves fit and maintain your body.

What will she hear when you talk to her? Will she hear something charismatic coming out of your mouth or something lame? Will she hear desperation when you speak? Will she hear you be funny or sarcastic?

What will she smell? Will it be a cologne that smells great on your body chemistry ? WIll it be the smell of freshly washed clothing? Or will it be the smell of the gym? Again, will she smell desperation?

What about tastes? Do you have the same taste in music? movies? any interests at all?

All of these things will determine... how she feels about you.
That is when she will rate you on her 1-10 / thumbs up or down scale.

She will know within 3 minutes from the time she meets you exactly how she feels about you.

Hope this helps clear things up.
add to this...
- confidence
- assertiveness
- dominance
etc.......
 

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Maxtro said:
Here you go

It's a fun read. Seems to be pretty accurate.

The average man is between 6 and 4.
I actually quite enjoyed reading that, I thought it was quite reasonable. Although the 10s and 9s on there are something that would only apply to a handful of guys in the real world (there arent THAT many billionaires and movie stars) there is nothing about the 8 there that isn't achievable for an average joe if hes willing to work on himself.
 

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kingsam said:
this is overal pointless mental masterbation and could give you limiting beleifs ... say you rate yourself a 7, you will likely be more hesistant to approach hotties who are 8/9's if you think they are higher value than yourself....

rate your selves by the women you end up with...... that represents your value - which fluctuates daily (soo many factors ... ) and also depends on the context as it is relative

you should just think you are the collest MO FO around..... thus projecting value
Spot on, bro!

Here's something you guys must check out:

How a Woman Rates a Man

It is not about looks, it is all about the personality! :cool:
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Just a Shot Away said:
After the author rated that first chick an 8.35 he lost all credibility. That chick's face is straight BUSTED. She gets a 6, and that's only cause of the flat stomach and token tig ol' bitties.
Aren't you the same guy who said Rosie O'Donnell has a great ass?
 

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rate your selves by the women you end up with...... that represents your value
In practical terms, that sounds about right.
But it also sounds like it could be a self limiting belief for some. If a guy is only pulling 4s, aren't you implying that he should just think of himself as a 4?

Unless he pulls a 9 the next night, and then all of a sudden he's a 9? It seems like you're putting too much power into the hands of women to determine your own self worth.
 
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