She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
add to this...penkitten said:Every woman has her own 1-10 scale to judge a man that she meets.
Perhaps it would be best to explain by a woman's senses.
(what she sees, hears, smells, tastes and feels. )
What does she see when she looks at you? She sees what you look like, if you are attractive, if you are physically fit, if you take pride and groom yourself, she sees your poise and what you are wearing.
Every person finds certain physical traits attractive and other traits unattractive. You know you are not always going to be everybody's cup of tea. However, you should try to keep themselves fit and maintain your body.
What will she hear when you talk to her? Will she hear something charismatic coming out of your mouth or something lame? Will she hear desperation when you speak? Will she hear you be funny or sarcastic?
What will she smell? Will it be a cologne that smells great on your body chemistry ? WIll it be the smell of freshly washed clothing? Or will it be the smell of the gym? Again, will she smell desperation?
What about tastes? Do you have the same taste in music? movies? any interests at all?
All of these things will determine... how she feels about you.
That is when she will rate you on her 1-10 / thumbs up or down scale.
She will know within 3 minutes from the time she meets you exactly how she feels about you.
Hope this helps clear things up.
I actually quite enjoyed reading that, I thought it was quite reasonable. Although the 10s and 9s on there are something that would only apply to a handful of guys in the real world (there arent THAT many billionaires and movie stars) there is nothing about the 8 there that isn't achievable for an average joe if hes willing to work on himself.Maxtro said:
Spot on, bro!kingsam said:this is overal pointless mental masterbation and could give you limiting beleifs ... say you rate yourself a 7, you will likely be more hesistant to approach hotties who are 8/9's if you think they are higher value than yourself....
rate your selves by the women you end up with...... that represents your value - which fluctuates daily (soo many factors ... ) and also depends on the context as it is relative
you should just think you are the collest MO FO around..... thus projecting value
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Aren't you the same guy who said Rosie O'Donnell has a great ass?Just a Shot Away said:After the author rated that first chick an 8.35 he lost all credibility. That chick's face is straight BUSTED. She gets a 6, and that's only cause of the flat stomach and token tig ol' bitties.
In practical terms, that sounds about right.rate your selves by the women you end up with...... that represents your value