She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
add to this...penkitten said:Every woman has her own 1-10 scale to judge a man that she meets.
Perhaps it would be best to explain by a woman's senses.
(what she sees, hears, smells, tastes and feels. )
What does she see when she looks at you? She sees what you look like, if you are attractive, if you are physically fit, if you take pride and groom yourself, she sees your poise and what you are wearing.
Every person finds certain physical traits attractive and other traits unattractive. You know you are not always going to be everybody's cup of tea. However, you should try to keep themselves fit and maintain your body.
What will she hear when you talk to her? Will she hear something charismatic coming out of your mouth or something lame? Will she hear desperation when you speak? Will she hear you be funny or sarcastic?
What will she smell? Will it be a cologne that smells great on your body chemistry ? WIll it be the smell of freshly washed clothing? Or will it be the smell of the gym? Again, will she smell desperation?
What about tastes? Do you have the same taste in music? movies? any interests at all?
All of these things will determine... how she feels about you.
That is when she will rate you on her 1-10 / thumbs up or down scale.
She will know within 3 minutes from the time she meets you exactly how she feels about you.
Hope this helps clear things up.
I actually quite enjoyed reading that, I thought it was quite reasonable. Although the 10s and 9s on there are something that would only apply to a handful of guys in the real world (there arent THAT many billionaires and movie stars) there is nothing about the 8 there that isn't achievable for an average joe if hes willing to work on himself.Maxtro said:
Spot on, bro!kingsam said:this is overal pointless mental masterbation and could give you limiting beleifs ... say you rate yourself a 7, you will likely be more hesistant to approach hotties who are 8/9's if you think they are higher value than yourself....
rate your selves by the women you end up with...... that represents your value - which fluctuates daily (soo many factors ... ) and also depends on the context as it is relative
you should just think you are the collest MO FO around..... thus projecting value
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Aren't you the same guy who said Rosie O'Donnell has a great ass?Just a Shot Away said:After the author rated that first chick an 8.35 he lost all credibility. That chick's face is straight BUSTED. She gets a 6, and that's only cause of the flat stomach and token tig ol' bitties.
In practical terms, that sounds about right.rate your selves by the women you end up with...... that represents your value