"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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1-10 scale for men?

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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penkitten said:
Every woman has her own 1-10 scale to judge a man that she meets.
Perhaps it would be best to explain by a woman's senses.
(what she sees, hears, smells, tastes and feels. )

What does she see when she looks at you? She sees what you look like, if you are attractive, if you are physically fit, if you take pride and groom yourself, she sees your poise and what you are wearing.
Every person finds certain physical traits attractive and other traits unattractive. You know you are not always going to be everybody's cup of tea. However, you should try to keep themselves fit and maintain your body.

What will she hear when you talk to her? Will she hear something charismatic coming out of your mouth or something lame? Will she hear desperation when you speak? Will she hear you be funny or sarcastic?

What will she smell? Will it be a cologne that smells great on your body chemistry ? WIll it be the smell of freshly washed clothing? Or will it be the smell of the gym? Again, will she smell desperation?

What about tastes? Do you have the same taste in music? movies? any interests at all?

All of these things will determine... how she feels about you.
That is when she will rate you on her 1-10 / thumbs up or down scale.

She will know within 3 minutes from the time she meets you exactly how she feels about you.

Hope this helps clear things up.
add to this...
- confidence
- assertiveness
- dominance
etc.......
 

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Maxtro said:
Here you go

It's a fun read. Seems to be pretty accurate.

The average man is between 6 and 4.
I actually quite enjoyed reading that, I thought it was quite reasonable. Although the 10s and 9s on there are something that would only apply to a handful of guys in the real world (there arent THAT many billionaires and movie stars) there is nothing about the 8 there that isn't achievable for an average joe if hes willing to work on himself.
 

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kingsam said:
this is overal pointless mental masterbation and could give you limiting beleifs ... say you rate yourself a 7, you will likely be more hesistant to approach hotties who are 8/9's if you think they are higher value than yourself....

rate your selves by the women you end up with...... that represents your value - which fluctuates daily (soo many factors ... ) and also depends on the context as it is relative

you should just think you are the collest MO FO around..... thus projecting value
Spot on, bro!

Here's something you guys must check out:

How a Woman Rates a Man

It is not about looks, it is all about the personality! :cool:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Just a Shot Away said:
After the author rated that first chick an 8.35 he lost all credibility. That chick's face is straight BUSTED. She gets a 6, and that's only cause of the flat stomach and token tig ol' bitties.
Aren't you the same guy who said Rosie O'Donnell has a great ass?
 

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rate your selves by the women you end up with...... that represents your value
In practical terms, that sounds about right.
But it also sounds like it could be a self limiting belief for some. If a guy is only pulling 4s, aren't you implying that he should just think of himself as a 4?

Unless he pulls a 9 the next night, and then all of a sudden he's a 9? It seems like you're putting too much power into the hands of women to determine your own self worth.
 
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