"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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“You’re really easy to talk to”

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Can’t find a solid answer on the net. So I’m turning to the solid reputable advice I have found here.

On the last three first dates I have gotten “you’re really easy to talk to”. Which I’m not entirely sure what that means; although it sticks out like a sore thumb when they say it.

All three of these women I have kiss closed. And my ‘game’ is relatively good, comparing myself to what I was last year.

-One naked in my bed for foreplay on first date
-Had sex twice with one on second date last night.
-And the other, makeout on the first date. Although I’m wanting to see her again. she’s giving me warm texts but no actionable dates or even messaging haha.. but I don’t want to next her just yet. *my greatest interest I’ve been out with all year*

So by looking at the results it would seem ‘ya that’s a good thing then’. But! My question is, is it? Or is it working against me as things progress.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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wifehunter

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It's funny how once we have something to lose, the easier it is to lose our sh!t.

Take a break, regroup.
 

marmel75

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It means you make them feel relaxed and comfortable and they feel like you are a good listener.

Definitely a good thing.
 

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Girl: I like being around you
Guy: *online* WHAT DOES THIS MEEAAANNN????
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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The Duke

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Keep doing what you are doing. This is what its all about. So many posters are oblivious to why they don't get 2nd dates. Women want to connect and they do so much easier with guys they feel comfortable talking to. The easiest route to her pu$$y is thru her heart and mind.
 

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that's generally a good sign given that women like connecting at a certain level, but never lose sight of your interest, or you risk landing on the dreaded friend zone as well.
 

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Careful with this. It can go either way. If you are not doing some sensual touching and kissing, you can turn into her new BFF. Listen, yes. They love that, just don't talk too much or answer too much of any question. I usually throw it back to them.
 

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Careful with this. It can go either way. If you are not doing some sensual touching and kissing, you can turn into her new BFF. Listen, yes. They love that, just don't talk too much or answer too much of any question. I usually throw it back to them.
Very true and I was going to say that and didn't because he has gotten 2 out of the 3 sexual early on which tells me he isn't getting in the friend zone.

These girls that say you are "really easy to talk to" should also be saying "you are a little dangerous" as they make eye contact and smile at you while they get tingles below.
 
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R.U.G.

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Very true and I was going to say that and didn't because he has gotten 2 out of the 3 sexual early on which tells me he is a little dangerous.

These girls that say you are "really easy to talk to" should also be saying "you are a little dangerous" as they make eye contact and smile at you while they get tingles below.
I prefer when women say to me you are hard to read. However, those words, you're easy to talk to, can be the kiss of death. I recall when that was the last time I was told that. I turned to her and said, yea, and then we kissed and made out. Therefore, avoiding the BFF status. Never let that be the last thought in her head. Remember, if they get too comfortable with you in one way, then the other door closes on you. You need to keep changing and moving. Never be able to be read too easily. Hence, if she says one thing, do the opposite to confuse her internal thought process of you. Like Muhammad Ali, stick and move, stick and move. Never be complacent and stay in the same zone.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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