"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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“All the girls fancy you, but they think you’re gay.”

Austin Allegro

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Originally posted by Dan_DJ
That's a difficult question. In most cases, you either have the "macho" image or you don't.
I think the best way to be is smart, but not prissy. Eg I know a man whom my female acquaintances were convinced was gay, because he had plucked eyebrows and a waxed chest.

I try to go for a smart but not overly groomed look. I usually wear a suit or a blazer but not a really flashy, fashionable one (like David Beckham would wear for example) and my hair is neat but not obsessively 'styled' and I don't wear much aftershave.

Another thing to avoid is tight white tee shirts, especially the ribbed ones, if you are quite muscly this tends to look VERY gay.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Kineti[C]harm

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Originally posted by Dan_DJ
That's a difficult question. In most cases, you either have the "macho" image or you don't.
+ talk sex, talk about hot women, use them for picking up others, just be fulloutblown sexual :p Works.
 

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Originally posted by Capi Crimini
Mainly people who just meat me.
lol

Tips for Not Being Called Gay:

1) Dont get meated
2) Dont get meated
3) Dont get meated
 

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If you roughen your face you'd look more manly.

CHANGE YOUR WORDING.

FANCY sounds gay.

LIKE

Wanna F*ck

got the hots.

That there could be your problem
 

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Ok, thanks for the tips. I think I definitely need to be more sexual as I've always had a tendency to cringe from sexual topics and have tried way too hard to respect women for who they are.

I distinctly remember one time, I was lying in bed with a girl who was hot for me and I told her: "I'm not after one thing like most guys. I genuinely respect you as a person". As you can probably guess, we never had sex and she also asked me if I was gay.

I was totally AFC then and feel ashamed by it, but maybe I'm still carrying around a few residual AFC traits.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by Dirtheart
...I don't mind people wondering if I'm gay and I wouldn't want to risk losing friends, but at the same time I wouldn't want it to impair my chances with women...
don't worry and don't change a thing, they are just shaken up cause they finally ran into a guy that isn't all over them. It rattles their opinion of themself right down to the bone.

Since you are obviously a good looking guy, the rules are a bit different for you. Playing hard to get can make you appear gay or conceited. Good looks can be more of a curse than you realise, you'll see what I mean when you get older.
 

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"are you gay?"

"why don't you come over and we'll find out" ;)



Honestly - stop hanging out with women - they're awful
 

Kineti[C]harm

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Originally posted by RedZone122
"are you gay?"

"why don't you come over and we'll find out" ;)



Honestly - stop hanging out with women - they're awful
No they are the best :) Great friends to hang with they are :)
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I have a friend who comes across as gay, but to my bewilderment he seems to do well with the chicks.

My friend was normal once, enjoyed sports and had no effiminate antics.

Ever since he went to Italy he has been obsessed with Italian culture and dislikes American things. He is now all artsy, wears womens jeans (because they are tighter and the "tight" look is the Italian look I suppose) when he walks, his ass has a sway to it and he puts his hands behind his hips like a fag.

I do not think he is gay, but he went to the far extreme with Italian fashion and culture. The kid would never be caught drinking a beer because it is too Un-Italian I guess.

Well, if you saw him you would think he was a fudge packer, but he still manages to score chicks and hook up. He is an attractive looking guy, but not masculine. It still blows my mind away that most chicks would not be turned off by his effiminate antics.
 
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