Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Impressive.backbreaker said:http://i237.photobucket.com/albums/ff85/strawberryroad/vacation/londonnightclub.jpg
far right. we took that last time we went to visit her parents and went out with some of her old friends.
backbreaker said:http://i237.photobucket.com/albums/ff85/strawberryroad/vacation/londonnightclub.jpg
far right. we took that last time we went to visit her parents and went out with some of her old friends.
Very cute....English right? And she likes race horses so that's a huge bonus.backbreaker said:http://i237.photobucket.com/albums/ff85/strawberryroad/vacation/londonnightclub.jpg
far right. we took that last time we went to visit her parents and went out with some of her old friends.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Ease said:Impressive.
Its pretty positive to hear how happy you are with the fiancee. After failed relationships and mistakes, i often wonder how i will ever end up. On the surface i wish to live as an international playboy king, but deep down i would like to successfuly settle one day. Nice knowing that someone has done it after having their own failures!
backbreaker said:when i met her i was dating/seeing every bit of 4 women, probably 6 in all if you count the ones i was trying to get rid of. she just worked her way up the rotation lol. it's not like i met her and said okay everyone else leave. she earned it.
Thanks.....my little Asian hottie haha. That pic was in Vegas and she is without a doubt the best dresser I have ever been with. It's funny. I'm a white guy, decent to good looking and built pretty well. So you would think I wouldnt get this from other guys...but I do. You have no idea how many times we get "looks" when walking around Vegas from guys who I just KNOW are thinking that I am walking around with an Asian escort. :rockon:backbreaker said:she's is/was a jockey so yeah to say the least. loves horses and horse racing as much as I do.
that's nice cord. very nice.