"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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how do I look?!?!

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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ObieJuan

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Those glasses make you look like you're from the 50s. Your skin is a little red. What's it from? Other than that if I were gay I'd hit it.
 

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Actually I am just trying to find out if I am an regular joe or a hunchback of Notre Damme. I'll whiten my teath at the dentist, cause I smile a lot and have a big smile.
I wear contacts 60-70 % of the time but actually every girl I've been with said she liked me more with glasses. But I feel better without them
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Lol, a regular guy over tha day and a womens rights fighter at nights, is it a plane, it it a rocket, is it a bird, no
it's



The Nerd.
 

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You look fine,I would change up the glasses and cut the hair a little shorter,but that's MY style not YOURS. Do as you please. By the way one of the hottest chicks I know,well her husband just happens to look like you and wear the same style glasses,just food for thought.
 

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Your complextion isnt great. I would go with redoing the hair. Your cheeks seem well red for some reason.

However dude you are not ugly. Your not brad pitt either....but you dont need to be. TRUST ME
 

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As for the hair, youre right, I haven't cut my hair for 3 weeks so It's time to cut it again.
 

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And the pics have been taken with a cell phone which I think distorts the pic a bit.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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it looks very fluffy. Bit of styling wouldnt go a miss :woo:
 

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I consider myself face-wise a 6.5-7(totally in the middle). But since I'm 6'1'' and weigh 190 pounds I am not totally lost. I would rate my body a 7.5-8.
 

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You should do fine.

Only thing, hard to tell from the pick, but like me, it looks like you have very thick eyebrows. Might want to look into that.


-E.Nigma
 

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Yes I have thick eyebrows but the thing is- they are already shortened and the unibrow removed. Anyway- look at this guy;), they're the same;)
No, I am not fishing for compliments, I was talking online with this girl and sent her this shi tty pic (I KNOW it's ****ty, but what fuk it)- and she said- let's better not meet.
So now I took better ones, but I was wondering if I an ugly or normal. I guess now that I'm normal looking.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Dude, first impressions/appearances are everything. You dont even look confident in that picture. HOW you look is more important then WHAT you look like.
 

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I know but if I put on my normal look, I look like I'm gonna kill someone , unless I'm smiling, so I have to put a puppy look.
But here's one I'm "normal" and smiling
 

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Dude, forget what you know and listen to the people here with experience. Hell, youve been around here since 2003 like me, you should have more things figured out by now. Clean your face up with some good nutrogena face wash, get some lotions, etc.

Smile and look into the camera not pouty like a woman. A sly grin would do wonders
 

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You are above average BUT:

I think the background to the pics lets them down.

Your 'look' as other posters have mentioned does not scream confidence. Great news is you can work on that.

It might just be she was turned off because you don't fit her architype in terms of 'tribal belonging' than any actual physical issue.
 

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Charm said:
Dude, forget what you know and listen to the people here with experience. Hell, youve been around here since 2003 like me, you should have more things figured out by now. Clean your face up with some good nutrogena face wash, get some lotions, etc.

Smile and look into the camera not pouty like a woman. A sly grin would do wonders
I use face products, so my face is even colour and not shining. But not on the pic:(

I edited my previous post. What do you say.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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