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    How do you really get out of negative thinking?

    I've noticed that when I have a period of positive thinking that later positive things really do happen. Unfortunately, these periods are really short lasted. I tend to think negative most of the times and yes my life is turning to **** lately with those things happening that I think about. I...
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    Cashiers don’t even say hi or goodbye

    I care cause it’s 90% of the time. That combined with my lack of succes, just shows something is wrong and am trying to figure out what it is.
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    Cashiers don’t even say hi or goodbye

    Noticed it before but today was quite profound. Was at a grocery shop, three people in front, to every single one she said hello and goodbye. When it was my turn, nothing at all. Wtf is going on? Is it my body language?
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    “You look like a player”, yet...

    On a few instances where I’ve met new people, they afterwards tell me that I look like a player, like a guy with five girls on every finger. Yet I haven’t had a a girl for over 6 years (and back then it even only was an affair with a bpd). I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. Of course you can’t...
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    Oneitis

    And never ever give your number to a slightly fatter chick, even just to try it out. I blocked her number that same day. She contacted me via mail on Monday and this night called me with another number and left a voicemail “*******”. Tbh I’m kinda getting worried she’s gonna track me down and...
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    Oneitis

    Started reading The Rational Male again. I’m at the part about plates and I can see that would solve a lot of problems for me. How does one start with this? Where to ’find’ them? I live in a not so densily populated area. My social skills are horrible and I don’t feel confident at all.
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    Oneitis

    Thanks all And about that fat chick. Never replied since last Sunday and she again asked this morning if we could go out and didn’t understand why I didn’t reply. Good thing about this is though that I now realize I kinda acted the same towards the girl I’m really interested in. Really...
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    Oneitis

    But I can’t, there is no other one and I don’t see anyone else in the near future, especially no one as great as her. I had a great time with her (just texting though). But it was nice, never had that before. And it hurts that she seems to be going for a six year younger guy as her just cause...
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    Oneitis

    How to go from here with her? We still have to work together for several years, but it fvcking hurts to see her talking/having fun with others.
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    Oneitis

    I get that, I truly do. But I can not get the thought out of my head that because of how she acts and not giving me attention anymore that I’m worthless, that another woman just turned me down (with this one it’s even more difficult cause she’s a solid 9). And that one turns you down, every...
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    Oneitis

    I know my mistakes. I just don’t know where to go from here. I’m more in my bed then I’m out just cause I’m depressed. I used to come home from work and went straight to the gym cause I loved it. Now I can barely drag me to it. And like I said there is indeed no one else in my life.
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    Oneitis

    Met a girl at work at a mutual course 8 months back, started texting and texted a lot, but it never went further. One day I had a bit too much too drink and acted annoying while texting (nothing which would be considered #metoo material, just wanting her attention a lot at that time due to some...
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    Admitting you've been acting like a fool

    Just go NC then? Really not feeling well, she’s a solid 9. And she just texted that her grandfather is not doing well, that that the reason is why she’s so quiet/distant. Tbh I don’t believe it.
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    Admitting you've been acting like a fool

    She just texted this "I've been quiet/distant on purpose, I was a bit mad, but can we just act normal again now?" Uhm wtf, I do admit I acted weird on the day the death occured, but to use this event to act like that? This is a huge red flag no? Or probably that other guy is not acting like...
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    Admitting you've been acting like a fool

    That’s the point, I didn’t look for comfort with her. I dealt with it myself, this meant I was more quiet and ‘cold’ as usual, something she clearly had trouble with. But she changed since then, some other guy probably, fvcking b!tches. Something happens in your life and they can’t even hold on...
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    Admitting you've been acting like a fool

    Fvcking hell, why did I even keep trying? She suddenly became very unresponsive, taking hours to respond or not respond at all, where before it only took minutes. If she can't even handle the fact that because of a death in the family, I acted quiet and different for a week, I do realize she...
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    Admitting you've been acting like a fool

    She answered 10 hours later in the middle of the night with ‘sorry I was out, goodnight’. I’m a light sleeper so I saw it 15 minutes after she texted it, answered with a simple goodnight. What do I do now? Do I reach out or do I wait till she does? Something is going on, either she’s mad and...
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    Admitting you've been acting like a fool

    Ok she was playing me. I answered yesterday I was busy and would text her later, cause I was. In that text I also said it was nice I heard anything from her. Later that day asked her simply how she was, basic replies. Today texted her something, no reply. Thought she was mad, so just explained...
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    Admitting you've been acting like a fool

    Not gonna go into details, but last sunday I acted kinda ridiculous against a girl via text (not sexual or anything like that, but bombarding her with texts mainly). That day something bad happened in my family and I kinda lost it emotionally. I told her that already and she said she understood...
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    Ive fccked 48 girls this year

    This bothers me so much. I'm like 5"7, don't think I'm that bad looking (but ofcourse not a model), but my shortness is killing me, literally. I've had this hb9 interested, but you can tell she goes for the taller guys, currently even one who is 7 years younger as her, just cause he's tall...
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