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I used to have the feeling that I, too, was unattractive and incapable of attracting beautiful women, even though a number of them would say I'm good-looking, hot, whatever; truth is, it was what was inside me that was empty- the core, so to speak. I wasn't confident, and by that I mean I was...

Just awesome. :up:

In the same boat myself, and especially after being newly single at 36, I've decided to chart a new course as someone recently recommended to me (thanks, C!). Keep at your job, save some dollars, and create something that can earn you a living but that you look forward to each and every day...

Precisely what HoneyHitter wrote- no exception. Good luck.

What KarmaSutra and logicallefty wrote... and besides, it's not ALL the same; stuff advances with the times and circumstances, and bringing it up here is a positive thing- not negative. It's called a forum and it's not static. Good luck.

Cuddle party? Lmfao!

Oh, boy- do I feel you... really; I was there for a LONG time, so I can relate. But No.Danny hit it on the head with his last statement: don't care about the outcome. How do you do that though? By doing your own thing and putting yourself out there, and you build confidence in yourself...

Re-read what Scaramouche wrote- seriously; that is why it's better to move on 99.999999% of the time. I've been there like many, I'm sure.

Her initial reactions/messaging resemble my current girlfriend's method at the outset, and I have to tell you, she turned out to be a good woman that knows what she wants; even on the third meet she showed up at my place one early morning, saying "I'm here and taking you for breakfast." Of...

Tictac is right: don't be passive with sentiments (and we all have at one point or another); instead, be active. Take action. Put it out there and don't worry; can't control the future, but you know that.

I firmly believe logicallefty touched on a very good attribute- probably the most important: confidence. And it's not only about being confident externally, but internally; i.e. being all right and comfortable under your own skin and thoughts to just let it fly out there but coming from within...

If in doubt and you find yourself thinking about her, slap yourself and re-read posts 2 through 11; especially 2 3, 7, and 8. 9 and 10 for immediate implementation.

Precisely what noobolgy wrote, but she will contact you and don't wait- let that go, don't push; I wouldn't go there again, though. Glad your health and business are back on track. :up:

I personally prefer Hegel over Schopenhaur, but the man was right with this general observation. But also I have known some gals to take the first step. Good quote, cheers.

Your former option is preferred; i.e. disregard completely and move on to better prospects- of course she'll follow up more often given your apathy. And I think you deduced it appropriately, so carry on, brother. Cheers.

A tad difficult, but I would have been light and funny about it and said something to ease her tension. Now you might say that "anything" out of your mouth would have added to the stress, but silence is awkward, power-shifting may occur, and it also depends on the choice of words and how you...

I know the exact feeling, joker79, and it does stay on our minds a bit even if we don't care or tolerate it. So I like what Mauser96 and pyros wrote, and your gut is right. What does it for me is this: if you know your value and the direction of your moral compass (not an afc, not a jerk, but...

Re-read taiyuu_otoko's reply, especially the last five lines- golden. :up:

Hey, joker79, how's it going? The point is two-fold in my view, that is: firstly, that he doesn't get frazzled or affected by such behavior from women, and secondly, that he has a life instead of dealing with flaky testers (but testing isn't a bad thing in general). And it's only my...

Can't write much more above what Colossus and Kailex already covered- spot on. But I do know that feeling in your chest, and it's rather difficult to go through that situation while learning from members here i.e. undoing years of being on auto-pilot. Do learn it, though; it's indispensable to...