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Not sure what causes this but I tend to plan things out in my head and if things don't work out or I don't get my own way it really seems to get me down. Is this an ego thing? Any tips on taming it? Example being I had plans with a girl tonight, food, drinks and she was going to stay at mine...

Yawn it means nothing, stop over analyzing. Text her back the next day, make it short and interesting (read up on txt game). You have to build some sort of connection with a person before they're going to start prioritizing you (best done in person so lead towards a date). Remember, don't make...

That's why the best type of kino to initiate with is something where she meets you half way, for example offering your hand to spin her and then you can pull her in. You give her the choice and once she accepts you're good to go

Thanks for this, a good read as I'm going through a similar recovery

I have one or two "goto" approaches. It's more natural things to me than anything scripted, I like high fives or to spin a girl round and get closer to her. This works for me a lot of the time, eye contact and then approach, the rest is natural. I am starting to experiment with a few more...

Thinking further about the work situation I suppose what bothers me most is my reputation? I know people often say on here to care less about what people think but how does that balance with reputation? Is this just my ego worrying that people are judging me over the whole situation?

Cheers guys. Going to look at some NLP to help with the work situation, if I can avoid her popping into my head every time I have to see this guy or her mum it will definitely help. On the improvement side I have been hitting the gym and boxing hard, I'm in the best shape of my life and have...

I split up with a girl about 8 weeks ago. She had no dad, a history of bad relationships, 18 with lots of partners, history of weed and a million other red flags that despite being aware of I chose to ignore in some White Knight attempt to change her. Eventually I saw some sense and ended it...

I'm still in the process of getting over a breakup due to some circumstances that resurfaced a lot of cr*p this week and I can't seem to clear my mind when I lie down or want to goto sleep. Has anybody got any tips/pointers please? Just want to stop her creeping back into my head really :)...

This situation sounds pretty much identical to what I have just been through, same age (23 and 18) with exactly the same behaviors and characteristics. The first thing to say is things do get better, you will learn from this and you will become a stronger person because of it. The second...

Let her flake and when she does you can respond with "good job I made backup plans but now you have to make it up to me :)". If she is interested then a date will come off the back off that where she has to make it up, also don't tell her what your backup plans are, even if she asks remain a...

I completely agree, what is difficult is when it starts so well and begins to fade, that's when your ego tends to take over and you think "I can fix this" rather than doing the sensible thing of withdrawing.

Straight away I see there are things you want to change about this girl but what I'll say is that it is a very dangerous path to go down. Personally I wouldn't let yourself emotionally invest in this girl, especially don't try to "change her" or "fix her". My advice is to you is spin other...

Go with your gut instinct and withdraw contact a little. If she starts hampering to see you I'd say your safe, if not then she's probably getting her kicks elsewhere so be ready to move on. Safest way to play it, constant confrontation/accusation could cause resentment and show insecurity which...

This half helps with the question I posted here: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=198935 Do I just have to bottle up my opinions? What about with things I would be uncomfortable with happening again?

Excellent post, thanks Muscleman.

I think you miss understood, he didn't mean as an actual wingman but that they automatically help your game because it displays higher value when you are out with a cute girl. No better start to a night than walking in a bar and having 3-4 girls come straight up to you, each one with a...

I think the trick here is to avoid investing too much in this type of girl. For month one of my relationship with someone similar sounding everything was amazing but I was also very cautious. I then started to let my guard down, probably paid too much attention to some of the sob stories and...

If her favourite film is "500 days of Summer" and she thinks the guy isn't being strung along, BAIL.