"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The suit game

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Those who know me from years ago know that I frequently preached about invisibility. Most men are invisible to quality women. They are objects to walk around like a garbage can or parking meter. They are filtered out immediately because they don’t project self-respect. I know because I used to be an object to walk around. A neat presentation makes one visible which is a huge advantage.
Here I find myself preaching on SS like days of old. It’s true what the song says. You can check out, but…
Not speaking in extremes, I'd say a man has to be at least 6'0 before clothes make any real difference.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Not speaking in extremes, I'd say a man has to be at least 6'0 before clothes make any real difference.
I've said this before, but one thing about height is that your clothes look better if you're taller.
 

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I have a friend of mine who met his wife this way. He had a nice job, which required him to wear a suit every day, and he went to the mall to eat lunch at the food court in the mall. A girl dropped her number off at his table without saying a word.

The problem in the OP is why would he wear a suit just to go to the mall? My buddy had a legit reason. I guess some guys just walk around in suits every day, but it would be a little odd where I live, unless like I said it's for work.
I mean unless he was from the 1940s or 1950s and then that's what they wore ever day
 

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A long time ago I stopped focusing on suits and instead focused on just improving my wardrobe. This screams “self-respect” to the world. It’s critically important in order to be influential.
These days most men dress pretty sloppily in casual situations. There’s nothing wrong with that per se, but it makes it easy for us to stand out as men who have their stuff together.
I say that in any social situation, just dress a little nicer than most in that situation. It’s more about neatness and cleanliness than about suit/no suit. This should become a lifestyle.
Did I mention shoes? Only a thousands of times since I’ve been here. Men have no idea how important clean shoes are to women.
By the way, these tips will also work with garnering respect from men. A double-win. No, it’s a triple-win. When you dress neatly and convey self-respect to the world, you are conveying this to yourself first and foremost.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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A long time ago I stopped focusing on suits and instead focused on just improving my wardrobe. This screams “self-respect” to the world. It’s critically important in order to be influential.
These days most men dress pretty sloppily in casual situations. There’s nothing wrong with that per se, but it makes it easy for us to stand out as men who have their stuff together.
I say that in any social situation, just dress a little nicer than most in that situation. It’s more about neatness and cleanliness than about suit/no suit. This should become a lifestyle.
Did I mention shoes? Only a thousands of times since I’ve been here. Men have no idea how important clean shoes are to women.
By the way, these tips will also work with garnering respect from men. A double-win. No, it’s a triple-win. When you dress neatly and convey self-respect to the world, you are conveying this to yourself first and foremost.
It's so bad in northern England, you can't even look to take hints from other well-dressed blokes.

Everyone is scruffy. **** beards, awful tattoos, beer bellies....the problem is the women aren't much better either :confused:
 

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Did I mention shoes? Only a thousands of times since I’ve been here. Men have no idea how important clean shoes are to women.
By the way, these tips will also work with garnering respect from men. A double-win. No, it’s a triple-win. When you dress neatly and convey self-respect to the world, you are conveying this to yourself first and foremost.
Yeah, shoes are huge for women. At this point, I've almost completely abandoned sneakers/tennis shoes/running shoes, what ever you want to call them. Supposedly this is particularly important for older men, that older men shouldn't wear sneakers out regularly, unless of course they're going to the gym, exercising, etc.
 
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