Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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The suit game

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Those who know me from years ago know that I frequently preached about invisibility. Most men are invisible to quality women. They are objects to walk around like a garbage can or parking meter. They are filtered out immediately because they don’t project self-respect. I know because I used to be an object to walk around. A neat presentation makes one visible which is a huge advantage.
Here I find myself preaching on SS like days of old. It’s true what the song says. You can check out, but…
Not speaking in extremes, I'd say a man has to be at least 6'0 before clothes make any real difference.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Not speaking in extremes, I'd say a man has to be at least 6'0 before clothes make any real difference.
I've said this before, but one thing about height is that your clothes look better if you're taller.
 

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I have a friend of mine who met his wife this way. He had a nice job, which required him to wear a suit every day, and he went to the mall to eat lunch at the food court in the mall. A girl dropped her number off at his table without saying a word.

The problem in the OP is why would he wear a suit just to go to the mall? My buddy had a legit reason. I guess some guys just walk around in suits every day, but it would be a little odd where I live, unless like I said it's for work.
I mean unless he was from the 1940s or 1950s and then that's what they wore ever day
 

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A long time ago I stopped focusing on suits and instead focused on just improving my wardrobe. This screams “self-respect” to the world. It’s critically important in order to be influential.
These days most men dress pretty sloppily in casual situations. There’s nothing wrong with that per se, but it makes it easy for us to stand out as men who have their stuff together.
I say that in any social situation, just dress a little nicer than most in that situation. It’s more about neatness and cleanliness than about suit/no suit. This should become a lifestyle.
Did I mention shoes? Only a thousands of times since I’ve been here. Men have no idea how important clean shoes are to women.
By the way, these tips will also work with garnering respect from men. A double-win. No, it’s a triple-win. When you dress neatly and convey self-respect to the world, you are conveying this to yourself first and foremost.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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A long time ago I stopped focusing on suits and instead focused on just improving my wardrobe. This screams “self-respect” to the world. It’s critically important in order to be influential.
These days most men dress pretty sloppily in casual situations. There’s nothing wrong with that per se, but it makes it easy for us to stand out as men who have their stuff together.
I say that in any social situation, just dress a little nicer than most in that situation. It’s more about neatness and cleanliness than about suit/no suit. This should become a lifestyle.
Did I mention shoes? Only a thousands of times since I’ve been here. Men have no idea how important clean shoes are to women.
By the way, these tips will also work with garnering respect from men. A double-win. No, it’s a triple-win. When you dress neatly and convey self-respect to the world, you are conveying this to yourself first and foremost.
It's so bad in northern England, you can't even look to take hints from other well-dressed blokes.

Everyone is scruffy. **** beards, awful tattoos, beer bellies....the problem is the women aren't much better either :confused:
 

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Did I mention shoes? Only a thousands of times since I’ve been here. Men have no idea how important clean shoes are to women.
By the way, these tips will also work with garnering respect from men. A double-win. No, it’s a triple-win. When you dress neatly and convey self-respect to the world, you are conveying this to yourself first and foremost.
Yeah, shoes are huge for women. At this point, I've almost completely abandoned sneakers/tennis shoes/running shoes, what ever you want to call them. Supposedly this is particularly important for older men, that older men shouldn't wear sneakers out regularly, unless of course they're going to the gym, exercising, etc.
 
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