steeringclear
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Genuinely why does this happen? She was begging to try again and saying it could work and our story is t over yet
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Ex came crying to get me back
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
BaronOfHair
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Note the words sung between 0:24-0:27, then repeated several times over the next 3 minutes. This is true in ALL aspects of life, dating and mating included
BackInTheGame78
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Because whoever she decided to get with wasn't what she thought he was or he dumped her.
Clockwerk50
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There are obviously endless factors and reasons why this would happen. Expecting someone else to be precise as to why, without knowing the context, is moronic.
BillyPilgrim
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Oh don't it seem to go that you don't know what you've got till it's gone
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To be fair, Vanessa Carlton would walk a thousand miles, so maybe OP's girl is just in a certain mood.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Doctor Europeo
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Doesnt matter. Never get back together with an ex, its one of Rollo´s Iron rules.
Iron Rule of Tomassi #7
It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was.
Rooting through garbage
HELP! I ****ed up big time and I want her back! How do I get her back? Easily one of the most common questions I’ve fielded at SoSuave over the past 7 years has been some variation of “…
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BackInTheGame78
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The only exception for me with this would be if there were circumstances outside of anyone's control that caused issues that meant moving forward was no longer possible (ie, caring for a loved one, etc).Doesnt matter. Never get back otgether with an ex, its one of Rollo´s Iron rules.
Iron Rule of Tomassi #7
It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was.
Rooting through garbage
HELP! I ****ed up big time and I want her back! How do I get her back? Easily one of the most common questions I’ve fielded at SoSuave over the past 7 years has been some variation of “…
If that situation materially changed and there were no blockers then I think there is no reason why you wouldn't entertain that
CornbreadFed
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Ehh depends on the context.Doesnt matter. Never get back otgether with an ex, its one of Rollo´s Iron rules.
Iron Rule of Tomassi #7
It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was.
Rooting through garbage
HELP! I ****ed up big time and I want her back! How do I get her back? Easily one of the most common questions I’ve fielded at SoSuave over the past 7 years has been some variation of “…