"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Genuinely why does this happen? She was begging to try again and saying it could work and our story is t over yet
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Genuinely why does this happen? She was begging to try again and saying it could work and our story is t over yet

Note the words sung between 0:24-0:27, then repeated several times over the next 3 minutes. This is true in ALL aspects of life, dating and mating included
 

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There are obviously endless factors and reasons why this would happen. Expecting someone else to be precise as to why, without knowing the context, is moronic.
 

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Note the words sung between 0:24-0:27, then repeated several times over the next 3 minutes. This is true in ALL aspects of life, dating and mating included
Oh don't it seem to go that you don't know what you've got till it's gone

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To be fair, Vanessa Carlton would walk a thousand miles, so maybe OP's girl is just in a certain mood.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Genuinely why does this happen?
Doesnt matter. Never get back together with an ex, its one of Rollo´s Iron rules.

Iron Rule of Tomassi #7
It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was.


 
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Doesnt matter. Never get back otgether with an ex, its one of Rollo´s Iron rules.

Iron Rule of Tomassi #7
It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was.

The only exception for me with this would be if there were circumstances outside of anyone's control that caused issues that meant moving forward was no longer possible (ie, caring for a loved one, etc).

If that situation materially changed and there were no blockers then I think there is no reason why you wouldn't entertain that
 

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Doesnt matter. Never get back otgether with an ex, its one of Rollo´s Iron rules.

Iron Rule of Tomassi #7
It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was.

Ehh depends on the context.
 
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