I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
It depends on what is meant by "natural". Humans are very psychologically malleable, so the enforced meme of monogamy worked - of course, part of this was that women's hypergamous nature was highly frowned upon, sometimes including being tortured at the stake for being a "witch" (which really means a woman that seduces married men). However, my definition of "natural" means without any social meme unforced, and so I have to say that women are naturally hypergamous; our current dating wasteland is pretty much prima facie evidence of this natural trait.The video says one thing I've been saying since I joined the forum. A lot of guys on here try to say that monogamy is unnatural, but I have always maintained that both monogamy and polyamory are natural, as humans are highly adaptable to different situations.
As for young women, obviously they have an advantage when it comes to the number of fertile years they have left. Also, women have childlike facial features which prompt feelings of protection in males. This is even more true in younger females.
I don't see how you can inject a "no social memes enforced" on a species that is naturally very social. I'd say you also need heavy socialization for women to be hypergamous as well. Also, all these habits were highly ingrained long before women were being burned as witches. Besides, the pair bonding instinct is far too deep to discount monogamy as unnatural.However, my definition of "natural" means without any social meme unforced, and so I have to say that women are naturally hypergamous; our current dating wasteland is pretty much prima facie evidence of this natural trait.
Yes, the pair-bonding instinct is there - because humanity had evolved as such (i.e., women that chose cads ended up perishing) - but the hypergamous instinct is also there (from being mammals), and I would say stronger.I don't see how you can inject a "no social memes enforced" on a species that is naturally very social. I'd say you also need heavy socialization for women to be hypergamous as well. Also, all these habits were highly ingrained long before women were being burned as witches. Besides, the pair bonding instinct is far too deep to discount monogamy as unnatural.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.