"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Dating multiple etiquette

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So Ive been on two dates with two girls. One didn't send messages for a few days so I setup a date with the other, I get messages during the date all pissy and saying how she's a lesbian now congrats or something to that effect.

We never had any discussion on seeing anyone else etc. I know if I liked a girl I would be pissed to realise they were dating other people too but am I the bad guy here?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Foe said:
So Ive been on two dates with two girls. One didn't send messages for a few days so I setup a date with the other, I get messages during the date all pissy and saying how she's a lesbian now congrats or something to that effect.
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Wow, girls turn lesbian at the drop of a hat these days, don't they?

Anyway, as you said, you had no discussion about seeing other people, so she has no real reason to be angry. If she's reasonable, she will realize that.
 
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Foe said:
So Ive been on two dates with two girls. One didn't send messages for a few days so I setup a date with the other, I get messages during the date all pissy and saying how she's a lesbian now congrats or something to that effect.

We never had any discussion on seeing anyone else etc. I know if I liked a girl I would be pissed to realise they were dating other people too but am I the bad guy here?
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Nah, this is a common misconception. Only weak dudes with no options lock themselves down of their own doing after a date or two. Imagine a wild stallion running inside a barn and locking the door behind it? That's what you are essentially doing. It just looks and feels weird to a woman.

If they claim they expect that then really they are seeing how easy you are to manipulate and control. Giving in shows them you are easily manipulated and controlled. They might enjoy it for a while but their lack of respect for you will lead them to end up despising you after the novelty wears off.

She needs to earn exclusivity and she can't do that simply by going on a date or two or even by sleeping with her.

Develop some standards and make them meet them.
 
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