I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I am a man with VERY diverse interests and am a moral relativist. I am on a journey through life where I pursue both pleasure and spirituality and hope that I can add some value to this site.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Pleasure and spirituality aren't associated together in the religions you speak of. Maybe go for something like Buddhism or Hinduism.
I wouldn't mind visiting Buddhist and Hindu places of worship. I practice vipassana meditation on my own, and recently went with a friend to his church to potentially meet women, though I didn't tell him that. Perhaps I'll meet Buddhist or Hindu women at their places of worship. I attend a Reform synagogue semi-regularly as I am Jewish, but I am VERY liberal in my interpretation of halakha or our Jewish laws. In fact, as a Reform Jew I can choose which of the 613 mitzvot or commandments in the Torah I want to follow. I would be open to meeting women of any religion or no religion at all. I realize that many Jews, particularly Orthodox or Conservative Jews wouldn't agree with how I live my life. I am open to women of any race, my only requirement to have sex with, or be in a relationship with a woman is that I find her physically attractive.
Yes, even I agree with that.
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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
speak on it