Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I am a man with VERY diverse interests and am a moral relativist. I am on a journey through life where I pursue both pleasure and spirituality and hope that I can add some value to this site.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Pleasure and spirituality aren't associated together in the religions you speak of. Maybe go for something like Buddhism or Hinduism.
I wouldn't mind visiting Buddhist and Hindu places of worship. I practice vipassana meditation on my own, and recently went with a friend to his church to potentially meet women, though I didn't tell him that. Perhaps I'll meet Buddhist or Hindu women at their places of worship. I attend a Reform synagogue semi-regularly as I am Jewish, but I am VERY liberal in my interpretation of halakha or our Jewish laws. In fact, as a Reform Jew I can choose which of the 613 mitzvot or commandments in the Torah I want to follow. I would be open to meeting women of any religion or no religion at all. I realize that many Jews, particularly Orthodox or Conservative Jews wouldn't agree with how I live my life. I am open to women of any race, my only requirement to have sex with, or be in a relationship with a woman is that I find her physically attractive.
Yes, even I agree with that.
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Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
speak on it