That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
It depends on what is meant by "natural". Humans are very psychologically malleable, so the enforced meme of monogamy worked - of course, part of this was that women's hypergamous nature was highly frowned upon, sometimes including being tortured at the stake for being a "witch" (which really means a woman that seduces married men). However, my definition of "natural" means without any social meme unforced, and so I have to say that women are naturally hypergamous; our current dating wasteland is pretty much prima facie evidence of this natural trait.The video says one thing I've been saying since I joined the forum. A lot of guys on here try to say that monogamy is unnatural, but I have always maintained that both monogamy and polyamory are natural, as humans are highly adaptable to different situations.
As for young women, obviously they have an advantage when it comes to the number of fertile years they have left. Also, women have childlike facial features which prompt feelings of protection in males. This is even more true in younger females.
I don't see how you can inject a "no social memes enforced" on a species that is naturally very social. I'd say you also need heavy socialization for women to be hypergamous as well. Also, all these habits were highly ingrained long before women were being burned as witches. Besides, the pair bonding instinct is far too deep to discount monogamy as unnatural.However, my definition of "natural" means without any social meme unforced, and so I have to say that women are naturally hypergamous; our current dating wasteland is pretty much prima facie evidence of this natural trait.
Yes, the pair-bonding instinct is there - because humanity had evolved as such (i.e., women that chose cads ended up perishing) - but the hypergamous instinct is also there (from being mammals), and I would say stronger.I don't see how you can inject a "no social memes enforced" on a species that is naturally very social. I'd say you also need heavy socialization for women to be hypergamous as well. Also, all these habits were highly ingrained long before women were being burned as witches. Besides, the pair bonding instinct is far too deep to discount monogamy as unnatural.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.