So I've been gone from the dating scene for awhile. I used to meet a lot of women off of Myspace back in the day. I do miss how easy and covert Myspace dating was. You could search location, and specifications on what girl you are seeking. No other app has ever come close to Myspace dating from my experience. How are you all meeting women nowadays? Instragram? Tinder? POF? Or what is good?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
How to meet women nowadays?
- Thread starter rocco
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
RoadKing_Rabbit
Senior Don Juan
People swear by instagram. I wouldn't know. In my honest opinion, nothing was easier than myspace, (hell even Xanga!), except perhaps the original okcupid or POF. Most of what I did was inner circle and cold approach. I also did the 'nono' thing and dated/hooked up with coworkers often.
I'd say now that cold approach wins. I just have a few things I enjoy that can be done in public and it's relatively easy to ask someone to come along when I'm going to do one. A few of my military buddies swear up and down that 'fetlife' is the way to go. I've only used it once to get with a few ladies and wished I hadn't. Still an experience though! I wouldn't recommend it for anything other than fwb.
BTW, tinder and pof are both trash.
I'd say now that cold approach wins. I just have a few things I enjoy that can be done in public and it's relatively easy to ask someone to come along when I'm going to do one. A few of my military buddies swear up and down that 'fetlife' is the way to go. I've only used it once to get with a few ladies and wished I hadn't. Still an experience though! I wouldn't recommend it for anything other than fwb.
BTW, tinder and pof are both trash.
The Duke
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Its been 2years since I was dating random women. It was pretty much Hinge and Bumble for me. POF turned into garbage a long time ago, Tinder isn't far behind. I did talk to a few on facebook dating. My best success happened in bars from dancing and going to concerts.
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@rocco "So I've been gone from the dating scene for awhile. I used to meet a lot of women off of Myspace back in the day"
"Awhile" indeed... As to your question:
You can meet women pretty much anywhere. Obviously, the quality of one's potential acquisitions increases sharply, once you move beyond dive bars and the DMV waiting room, get into activities like yoga, ballroom dancing, art history, etc etc
"Awhile" indeed... As to your question:
You can meet women pretty much anywhere. Obviously, the quality of one's potential acquisitions increases sharply, once you move beyond dive bars and the DMV waiting room, get into activities like yoga, ballroom dancing, art history, etc etc
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.