Recent content by The Librarian

Mine, easily, was not getting angry with my ex when she finally admited to me that she had cheated on me while she was on vacation in the bahamas. This was only two months into a two and a half year relationship and it really set the tone for the rest of the relationship by proving to her that...

Personally, I use the word slut to refer to women who repeatedly have bad sex. Yes, I said that. Gasp! In my view of the world, there is such a thing as bad sex. My favorite bar has a wide range of people who frequent it. It is mostly people my own age. However, there are a few creepy...

My friend Ross has a quote for situations like these. It may have some other source, but he's the only one I've ever heard it from. "Never try and turn a ho into a housewife." I've been friends with a number of women who you could reasonably call sluts, and their behavior usually stemmed...

Sunday-Wednesday are my days. I know that doesn't really answer your question, but everyone needs some time to themselves. I take Sunday-Wednesday to do the housework I need to do, get some reading in, maybe do a little writing, and especially get plenty of sleep to prepare for the weekend. If...

Don't stress over it. I was actually discussing the psychology behind a lot of PUA techniques with a friend of mine and I realized: a lot of the techniques PUAs use really aren't that different from the techniques that a lot of successful naturals use. The only difference is that the PUAs...

My last LTR was bouncing around on different anti-depressants while we were together (two and a half years). Paxil was actually pretty good for her. Zoloft was horrible, and so was one other one whose name is escaping for now. Paxil didn't do much to destroy her sex drive. Zoloft completely...

I managed to come out of my shell by playing darts. The dartboards at my favorite bar (and keep in mind, I'm in a very small town) only allow two teams. I go out in a group that's odd number, so we always need to find an extra player to get even teams. Rather than having someone play twice, I...

There is no such thing as false conditioning, only false beliefs. Fear is a phenomenological experience, and inherently subjective. Who are we to tell anyone else that they aren't really afraid? We have no idea what they're really feeling. I really was afraid of women. Well, that may not be...

Analyze the territory to see what targets there and what kind of opposition I can expect.

Honesty is all well and good once you have your inner game prepared. However, speaking as someone who just got his inner game in order... if you don't have that going for you, honesty is really not your friend. If I had been honest with women.. oh, say, six weeks ago.. I would have said "You...

One reason for the increase in private profiles is that people have begun spying on them. Businesses and colleges will actually try to find people on Myspace/facebook and use that information while considering people for hiring/acceptance. I actually had a friend who was straight out asked...

Men volunteering to pay for dinner/a ticket/whatever is fine. It demonstrates that the man is a gentleman. Women expecting a man to pay for dinner/a ticket/whatever isn't okay, unless this was previously agreed upon by both parties. It's a sign of disrespect towards the man. Similarly, a man...

I have no problem with volunteering to pay. I think it can be a very gentlemanly gesture, especially accompanied by other gestures of the same during the meal. I do, however, have a problem with a woman making me pay for her food/ticket/whatever. I don't know how else to view it except as a...

As a recovering AFC only a month into his rehab, here are some of the things I've learned from getting out into the field: 1. Always have a good time. Women may help you to have a better time, but don't let them be the main component. 2. Don't be afraid of silence in conversation. If...

I forgave my last LTR, but that was a huge mistake and one that I won't be making again. We were together for a year after she cheated, and her actions destroyed my trust in her and the fact that I seemed to dismiss it so easily made her lose respect for me. From now on, if I find myself in...