Recent content by MikeEdward1973

Great words.

I want to thank the folks that posted on this thread, particularly Colussus, Don S, Guru, and Squirrels. The takeaway for me is: - shorter dates, don't invest anywhere near so much time at first - qualify, don't be qualified - loosen up, be unfiltered, go off-road. - be...

There are 30 days in a month. Probably not, as that isn't the case.

Guru - question: were you being literal when you said this? I mean, do you say - verbatim - "what separates you from the pack," etc.? Or were you speaking more figuratively? I'm just wondering how you deliver that kind of message on a first date?

I appreciate that - I don't think I'm 'boring' per se, either. But - to Don S's credit - there's no getting around the fact that I'm *extremely* left-brained. Numbers rule my world, to an extent that is hard for most people to understand. It's hard to explain, but this makes it difficult...

Yeah, I've considered that too. Hurts to say it. I mean, it's like the hardest thing to change.

Well, if there is one thing I've learned, it's that if either party has to get on a plane, it's just not going to work. In fact, my rule of thumb is she has to be close enough to spontaneously be available for happy-hour after work without a huge amount of logistical pre-planning.

As an experiment, I'm going to start capping the amount of time I spend on these dates. I'm going to try to keep it under an hour. For any number of reasons, you're right, I can't keep investing myself this heavily this often.

Since you asked... I'll pass on the pic, but will share a bit of backround info. I'm 6ft, 1in. caucasion male. Weight is a shade over 180, body fat is about 10%. Which is as non-arrogant a way as I can think of to say that, when compared to the general population, I don't think it's an...

Actually, it was fun at first. Now, it's like if a date tells me she can't make it (like she's really sick), I feel like I have the night off. It's become like a 2nd job or something. I'm not going on any dates this week, just reflecting on what I've been doing with this whole dating thing.

This is another point. I wonder if I'm killing myself with the conversations that we're having. We'll spend 2 hours talking about everything. Music. Where we went to school. Friends/family. And they seem to really be into it. And I do the basics well - 'kino' very successfully, get a lot of...

That's hard for me to hear, but it's a great point. And explains some things. This is great advice. When you put it like that, my closing/pursuit is sort of childish. This is not totally dissimilar from what I had been doing, in that I greatly prefer that they circle back to me first...

I had been wondering about this. Right now, I'm trading a couple emails, and closing them on meeting up for a drink. But - you're saying that speaking to them on the phone is a good disqualifier. Something like that would be invaluable, and would save me a lot of time. What are you...

Good questions. So, the answer is that my follow-up depends on how the date goes. If I'm attracted to her, we hang out for a couple hours, and have a couple drinks, and we make out, when we're parting ways, I'll ask her to do something. Either I'll tell her to shoot me her phone number...

So, I've learned a ton on this board, and put a lot of it to good use. I go on a ton of 1st dates. A lot of that traffic is from match.com. I'd say I go on about 15 'first dates' a month, and I do the basics very well. I'm frustrated with the number of women I end up seeing again after...