Recent content by Horse Whisperer

Yes - I can concur with this. Met a girl at work over xmas who was telling me she signed up to some dating web site and her and her mates were 'favourite-ing' as many guys as possible, so their profiles would get more hits so they could RACE each other into the top 10 or whatever. I think...

Just catching up on this thread a bit late... I've had this situ a bit. A girl is nice, pretty, would no doubt make a good partner, but just hasn't got the sex appeal. That's down to individual taste, but I'd say she *has to* 'float your boat'. The annoying thing is having friends moan at you...

Oh don't get me wrong - I want the feminine girl - but perhaps as you say, I obviously am not emitting enough of an agressive, masculine stereotype so get the Guardian reading, comfy shoe wearing intellectual types. Damn and blast:box:

Yes - I've had the latter a couple of times and er.. I've walked! I have done your suggestions in the past but find that 'tom boy' girls get suspicious if you so much as hint that you'd find them sexier in a skirt etc. I think it's normaly down to them not being that comfortable with their...

The last 2 girls I've dated have been only what I can describe as 'Tom Boy-ish'. i.e. they dress really casually, drink pints or act like 'lad-ettes'. I met a girl only recently at a Bus Stop, asked her out and on our first date, she revealed without prompting 'I've always been a bit of a Tom...

Yes - get away from the virtual arena asap! Again, I have to say, my experience of girls I know who go for all this online stuff are on there to boost their self esteem "oo- look how popular I am, how many friends I have, how many MEN are saying how hot I am" etc etc. It is sad and needy, so...

Well, she has approached you and you have the contact going. Unless she specifically invites you, I'd probably not go to the concert as it would be too loud to chat, her mates will be there - basically lots of distractions. Saying that, if you're into the same band and you want to go then...

Blunt, but not like James Blunt I hasten to add. It's harsh, but I have to agree with this chap's comment. She's also on MySpace. Any girl on these type of things likes attention from men, or indeed anyone! ( unless, perhaps, they set their profile to 'private'...). :yes:

I am confused as to what you want here.. I get the impression you're trying to convince yourself you should hang in there should she move back from London, you could hook up etc. There's nothing tangible in any of this though. It's all virtual, internet dating stuff - i.e. seems it's not going...

For me, I find femininity attractive. Trouble is, it is such a broad term, that women themselves don't know what it is. To one woman, wearing a dress and heels might be a sign of femininity, to another, wearing a floral pair of dungarees and some pretty flip flops is.:eek: Women often...

Hmm.. some girls just don't want to face the embarassment of telling a guy they're not interested. It's easier for them to ignore calls, texts etc hoping the guy gets the message, rather than saying 'Listen, I do really like you as a friend' etc. Us chaps are guilty of that too of course. :whistle:

Argh! NO! She is just trying to get you back into your Chump cage. She knows you had feelings for her and that will always give her a little confidence boost. She still sees you as the 'un-sexually threatening, shoulder to cry on , brotherly etc type guy. The only way to put an end to this...

Well, the ignoring tactic is just proving that she likes/craves your attention. Probably because she is not getting it at home. Attention seekers are bad. If she really wants you, rather than wants attention off you, then she would leave her fella. Keep her locked out from any attention...

Yep - been through something similar myself! It is really hard if you are into someone but get the feeling it is not reciprocated in the way you want. The fact that you know it is you who is doing most of the pursuing indicates this. She has no motivation to leave her fella as she is...

Cringe factor a go-go having to see the girl again. I work with mine - eech so consider yourself lucky! Actually bumped into her today at the drinks machine and I was pro-actively chatty. Sure, I felt uncomfortable, but like some of the other replies here, I knew I had to confront the situ...