You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I just slept with a 24 year old woman a few days ago and I'm 42. Since I'm beyond trying to pick her up, does this mean I'm having a bigger midlife crisis?
So what? What does it prove? Almost any 42 year old guy can have sex with 24 year old woman (majority of them mostly 2-5/10s in looks but still). What's next? Another 23y old chick? Sticking dck into a female student is one of the easiest things you can do being +40y old guy. Except you should be in place where its of tertiary value for you. Are you in such a place?I just slept with a 24 year old woman a few days ago and I'm 42. Since I'm beyond trying to pick her up, does this mean I'm having a bigger midlife crisis?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
What I'm looking for is a long term relationship. I'm emotionally retarded and socially underdeveloped and have found through trail and error that I can meet people roughly half my age in a relationships much better than people my age. There's a few people here who think I'm making that up and have convinced me not to pursue my sexual, social, and relationship needs and that has frustrated me, so in turn I post things like this to stir the pot so to speak; it's good for the forum too.
