"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The suit game

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I remember wearing a suit to the shopping mall in my 20s, I was decent looking then, I had looks from women. Which I didn't do nothing.

I'm in my mid 30s now, the only way to tell is to test this in field.

I have a feeling if I wore a nice trendy suit, this could work. I've got back to the gym, so I'll have nice definition.

If I do get looks, should I introduce myself, do kino, do some small talk and then get her number?

Its time to take chances now
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Sounds interesting.

I considered doing the same. I don't think I ever wore a suit aside from one occasion as a kid.
 

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I have a feeling if I wore a nice trendy suit, this could work
Frankie Muniz has thrown on a suit several times over the course of his public life, yet has always been less of a panty dropper than David Duke has been a formidable political leader, anytime after the early 90s

Your thinking and approach will have to be smidge more capacious than it currently is, hombre
 

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The old sayings seem trite sometimes but they are usually timeless, universal truths. We have often heard, “Clothing makes the man.” I maintain that clothing can completely override average looks. That’s how powerful your suit of armor is.
Usually as a man ages he gets more relaxed in his wardrobe. He dresses more and more casually, and gradually erodes his projection of self-respect. Women definitely notice this.
It’s so easy to rise above the “competition”. Good grooming and a well-fitting wardrobe scream to the world, “I respect myself”. People will always agree with what you project about yourself. Self-respect demands other-respect.
You don’t need expensive clothing and you don’t need a suit necessarily. Just clean, well fitting clothing is enough. In addition, shoes are vitally important. The very next thing a woman notices about you after your face is your shoes. Then they scan up for your overall “look” and that tells them all they need to know.
Those who know me from years ago know that I frequently preached about invisibility. Most men are invisible to quality women. They are objects to walk around like a garbage can or parking meter. They are filtered out immediately because they don’t project self-respect. I know because I used to be an object to walk around. A neat presentation makes one visible which is a huge advantage.
Here I find myself preaching on SS like days of old. It’s true what the song says. You can check out, but…
 

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@Atom Smasher "We have often heard, “Clothing makes the man"

One's apperance is definitely a powerful weapon in one's arsenal. OP sounds as if he believes that simply throwing on a suit is going enhance his allure by magnitudes though. Can't help but think his thinking is exaggerated
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I like suits but all suits are not equal and you can still look scruffy in an ill-fitting, crumpled, dirty suit. In that sense a suit is like any other clothing.

A nice, well-cut, smartly pressed suit can, however, look great. The key thing, however, is be in shape and your suit will flow and drape well. If you're overweight, you won't look good no matter how expensive the suit. You'll just be another fat guy in a suit.
 

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What colors do you guys wear? I imagine black probably doesn't fit on most occasions?

Materials probably wool?

Is ordering online an option or do you buy from stores? Maybe even custom tailored?
 

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A suit can come across as trying too hard or look out of place, especially at a mall, so I wouldn't recommend it.

However, you can use it later, once attraction has been established, to surprise her and make a stronger impression. Dressing differently for a date than you normally do can make the experience feel more special.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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some are often in suit. when you have one on it suggests your one of them.... make sure it fits, shoes should match. if your going to be seen in your car, it should match.... hair (or not...) and grooming should match. be congruent.

its ok to be in a place where it is not the normal dress, you might be coming from or going to a place that it is expected. that's the idea; to suggest your one of them.

you should know how to stand and walk..

don't just be hanging around, and don't act shy. a man in a suit is not shy, and is either doing, coming or going.
 

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What colors do you guys wear? I imagine black probably doesn't fit on most occasions?

Materials probably wool?

Is ordering online an option or do you buy from stores? Maybe even custom tailored?
Navy blue and chacoal grey are the best two to start with inasmuch as they do everything that a black suit does but they're more versatile too. Material depends on the climate where you are. Wool comes in different weights but linen is better if you are in the tropics.
 

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A suit can come across as trying too hard or look out of place, especially at a mall, so I wouldn't recommend it.

However, you can use it later, once attraction has been established, to surprise her and make a stronger impression. Dressing differently for a date than you normally do can make the experience feel more special.
That's true but suits can be more or less formal or casual. A structured, plain worcestered suit and sombre tie is really a business look. An unlined suit with texture and/or pattern, patch pockets and soft shoulders is more casual, especially with a button-down open-collared shirt.
 

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I just hope you have a backstory for this. Went to a funeral, need it for work, etc. Otherwise, why would you be in a suit? Also, skip the tie, ties have become the new formal.

With that said - a good suit goes a long way.
 
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Go for it. The suit might give you additional confidence. Just approach, analyze it later.

And best state your intent from the get go, instead of being suspicious. They will know why you are talking to them anyway. (Unless it's the workers.)

"Hey, you look nice, I came to meet you."

Saves so much time.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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I have a friend that wears suits when he goes out. He looks great and it helps draw women to him. The problem is those suits convey he is wealthy and it attracts the wrong type of woman, unless you are into women seeking financial gain. Don't forget women are always looking for congruency, so you need to be the man that wearing a suit conveys.
 
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state your intent from the get go, instead of being suspicious. They will know why you are talking to them anyway. (Unless it's the workers.)

"Hey, you look nice, I came to meet you."

Saves so much time.
I remember when our high school football coach / history teacher told us that he would tell women, that he came over to talk to them. We kind of laughed at him, but he was right.
 

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In my 20s I use to wear suites all the time for nights out late 2006-2009 the style back then in my area was business casual for clubs (that's the only way you got in) slacks,blazers, polo button ups and sweaters etc....

My style hasn't changed that much because it's timeless but nowadays I'm far more casual since I go out mostly local
 

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I have a friend of mine who met his wife this way. He had a nice job, which required him to wear a suit every day, and he went to the mall to eat lunch at the food court in the mall. A girl dropped her number off at his table without saying a word.

The problem in the OP is why would he wear a suit just to go to the mall? My buddy had a legit reason. I guess some guys just walk around in suits every day, but it would be a little odd where I live, unless like I said it's for work.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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