"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Talking to this Filipina widow whom I’ve got some chemistry going on

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Like I said, I’ve been ‘spinning plates’ The Christian way out here and talking to multiple women and evaluating my options, with this one, we seem to have some chemistry instead of the usual flirtations. This one is a widow though with an eleven year old sickly son suffering from Autism. Is this bad or a negative? She’s 34 years old by the way. I love her personality a lot, we seem to have plenty of chemistry and she’s the first Filipina I ran into who’s sarcastic. She reminds me of the latinas I dated in South Texas, a little feisty.

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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@Travel memoir21 "This one is a widow though with an eleven year old sickly son suffering from Autism. Is this bad or a negative?"

Sounds more promising than persuading a mainstream Hollywood studio to green light a flick like Old School
in today's social climate, without a substantial portion of the public having a meltdown over 0:30-0:34, on account of it "pandering to the male gaze"
 

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lol…that or she’s playing hard to get? Why does she ask ‘ are you still there?’ If I was away for a few hours…haha
Because she is toying you around for her personal enjoyment. She’s given you zero indication she’s interested.

you also cut out where she said something about being ‘brutally honest’, laughed at you and rolled her eyes multiple times, which from my perspective looks like you don’t want to admit that she said she has zero interest. Care to post that part?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Is your name Toro?
Like, when someone waves a red flag in your face, your first instinct is to charge at it
This one is a widow though with an eleven year old sickly son suffering from Autism. Is this bad or a negative? She’s 34 years old by the way.
She's catfishing you, man.
 

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lol…that or she’s playing hard to get? Why does she ask ‘ are you still there?’ If I was away for a few hours…haha
What color are your texts? If you're in blue, you asked that, not her.

Any woman who responds to your text with "what do you want" without a haha, lol or wink to reflect teasing or being playful, is not interested.

Sorry man..
 
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I am going to be honest, I’m starting to think this place might not be for you.
On the contrary, she’s not the only woman Im entertaining and spinning plates The Christian way. The girl below, I’ve also been talking and took her out to play Basketball the other day at the park. She’s really digging me and my big comfy retirement US Air Force pension and how I can really stretch the dollar over here Lol…just kidding, to be humble, the local dudes are still king over here because despite the money, you still need charm and social eloquence to get into the tight cliquey social circles out here.

To be humble once more, I admit Game and womenizing is not one of my strong suits, but I’m generally a happy dude - sober- no drugs, stimulants or alcohol….maybe some coffee and wine lol. I believe I can offer some dudes some pointers on inner peace, life contentment without needing a woman’s approval, wise worldly views on politics and anything else category. I consider this place as likening of an online Happy hour with a pub amongst Brothers, after a long day, you just want to shoot the sh1t and yes, that involves some male locker room talk about women. At the end of the day I enjoy the camaraderie of this place and looks forwards to my constructive criticism at my never ending plates I keep dating here on Tinder lol

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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