How to not cheat?

[plumber]

Like I said before though, I think it's a matter of priority. Your relationship has to be more important than the random sex. Which, when you think about it, it shouldn't really be close - if your relationship is good.

integrity. i have met only a few men like this. i wish i could understand the formula for what makes this type of man. it is so rare.... but very good.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

I used to love chasing women. Then I got married. Living with a woman has killed all desire for me to introduce additional chaos into my life. Women are black holes of time and money. Even if you could cheat, it’s simply not worth it.

First of all..

1. Depending on the caliber of man you (not you specifically, but in general) are, most women probably don't want you anyway. So, they ain't missing nothing if you stop chasing them.

2. Its easier to stop chasing (pursuing) women...than it is to turn down women that are chasing/pursuing you.

#2 is where the real battle is.

#2 is the real of test of loyalty, integrity, and principles.

#2 is the real flex...and is the real battle with Satan.

Let me know when you get to the point of when the beautiful, thick-lipped woman at work tells you she wants to suck your d!ck, and you tell her...

"Sorry, Briana. While I appreciate your offer, I must decline. You see, I'm a married man..and I love my wife dearly and I made a vow to forsake all others".

Yeah, right.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Let me know when you get to the point of when the beautiful, thick-lipped woman at work tells you she wants to suck your d!ck, and you tell her...

"Sorry, Briana. While I appreciate your offer, I must decline. You see, I'm a married man..and I love my wife dearly and I made a vow to forsake all others".

Yeah, right.

This level of thirst just doesn’t get thrown the way of 99.9% of men, including me. Unless you’re a professional athlete or at the top of Forbes list for net worth, you’re dreaming this up.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

This level of thirst just doesn’t get thrown the way of 99.9% of men, including me. Unless you’re a professional athlete or at the top of Forbes list for net worth, you’re dreaming this up.

I agree, my example was on the extreme side.

Let's retract that example, and use a less extreme one.

You get involved in a new relationship with a woman.

Then, after 6 months, you find a new job.

You begin working there, and you notice that this one particular female is showing you obvious choosing signals (IOI's)...and the signals get stronger by the day.

This woman may have a phatter a$$ than your gf.

Or, her titties are more bigger than your gf.

Or, a combination of both.

How long do you think it'll be before those "I shouldn't purse anything with her, because I love my GF" thoughts begin to fade away?

How long before you break?

And if you think that you can withstand the test of time...you've probably never had an attractive woman get at you in such fashion.

You will fall.

And if you think that you won't fall, you are having a bigger dream than my former example.

 

[Sega Genesis]

Not sure how realistic this is but a very married Tom Sanders/Michael Douglas said NO...

90s Movies: Glossy Age Cinema on Instagram: "This is the scene that made DISCLOSURE (1994) famous, depicting Demi Moore’s unwanted sexual advances on fellow DigiCom executive Michael Douglas. The day after, she charges Michael Douglas with sexual harassment. The movie grossed $214 worldwide on a budget of $55 million, largely thanks to the controversy generated by this scene. *** DISCLOSURE was adapted from a Michael Crichton book of the same name, which was, unsurprisingly, criticized for being antifeminist with its depiction of an everyman hero being falsely accused of harassment by a female superior. (Critics pointed out that 95% of harassment claims are filed by women.) Crichton, whose muddled postmodern politics would likely make him an alt-right hero nowadays, claimed he was simply holding up a "Rorschach inkblot” to the public. In a digressive expositional passage that’s typical of his (terrible) writing style, one of his characters declaims, "the fact is, harassment is a power issue. And power is neither male nor female.” I’m not sure about that one, Mike. But it’s an interesting window into how the culture wars of the 1990s still resound in the discussions we’re having today."

174 likes, 5 comments - 90s_glossy_age_cinema on January 18, 2020: "This is the scene that made DISCLOSURE (1994) famous, depicting Demi Moore’s unwanted sexual advances on fellow DigiCom executive Michael Douglas. The day after, she charges Michael Douglas with sexual harassment. The movie...

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[Cheeky_James]

Just don’t cheat bro.
U can still perv tho. That’s allowed ;D
Just keep it on the DL.

 

[EyeBRollin]

You begin working there, and you notice that this one particular female is showing you obvious choosing signals (IOI's)...and the signals get stronger by the day.

This woman may have a phatter a$$ than your gf.

Or, her titties are more bigger than your gf.

Or, a combination of both.

How long do you think it'll be before those "I shouldn't purse anything with her, because I love my GF" thoughts begin to fade away?

How long before you break?

And if you think that you can withstand the test of time...you've probably never had an attractive woman get at you in such fashion.

You will fall.

And if you think that you won't fall, you are having a bigger dream than my former example.

It doesn’t happen my guy. I see beautiful women all the time. There are two important points:

1) fraternizing at work is a bad idea in general, married or not. I have a career not a job.

2) Yeah so what if the girl is hot? 99.9% of women are headaches. Cheating means I’d be adding a more severe headache on top of my current headache. And the repercussions are far too severe just for a quick thrill and 10 minutes of used cat

 

[zekko]

And if you think that you won't fall, you are having a bigger dream than my former example.

Maybe if you're desperate for sex. There are plenty of guys here who would turn that down just based on it being a co-worker alone. You're describing a scarcity mentality.

 

[Mike32ct]

In the past, I went out with buddies that were taken, and they were often WAY more horny/thirsty than I as a single guy. It made zero sense to me at the time.

Looking back, they probably weren’t really allowed to go out, so they were thinking “Hypothetically, if I were to cheat, I would need to do it NOW” lol.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

Maybe if you're desperate for sex. There are plenty of guys here who would turn that down just based on it being a co-worker alone. You're describing a scarcity mentality.

Bro, don't be a fool (respectfully).

Guys that have the "don't shiit where you eat" philosophy...these guys don't have their female coworkers trying to fuk them.

Its easy to have that mentality when women don't want you.

Show me a guy that has/had his female coworkers wanting to jump his bone, but he turned them all down because "I don't shiit where I eat".

Bullshiit.

See how quick all that goes out the window when the reality becomes "holy crap, these women actually want to give me the puzzy".

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

It doesn’t happen my guy. I see beautiful women all the time. There are two important points:

1) fraternizing at work is a bad idea in general, married or not. I have a career not a job.

Bro, you're missing the point.

Of course you "see" beautiful women all the time...but do these beautiful women actually want to FUK YOU!!!???

If they did, you would be singing a different tune.

And again, its easy to say what you wouldn't do if your current circumstances doesn't reflect what you are opposing.

If those women at work actually wanted to fuk you..

"Im sorry, ladies, but I have to turn you all down. Because this is a career, not a job."

Says no man, EVER.

Lie to yourself, but don't lie to me.

2) Yeah so what if the girl is hot? 99.9% of women are headaches. Cheating means I’d be adding a more severe headache on top of my current headache. And the repercussions are far too severe just for a quick thrill and 10 minutes of used cat

"Thanks, but no thanks, Kimberly. I already have a headache at home...and I don't need you riding my d!ck and causing me yet another headache".

Yeah, ok.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

In the past, I went out with buddies that were taken, and they were often WAY more horny/thirsty than I as a single guy. It made zero sense to me at the time.

Looking back, they probably weren’t really allowed to go out, so they were thinking “Hypothetically, if I were to cheat, I would need to do it NOW” lol.

And on the flipside, I've heard that some "girls night outs" are sacred, take-it-to-the-grave cheating excursions that women go on, from time to time.

And I believe it.

 

[plumber]

Maybe if you're desperate for sex. There are plenty of guys here who would turn that down just based on it being a co-worker alone. You're describing a scarcity mentality.

might be a few that would turn it down. but not that many, you may be one of those as you see it that way. 80% of the guys never been chased. pride makes them say that they have... its like women, every guy is somehow and exception to himself.

this is the number one tool used for blackmail, because it works reliably.

well, for me i have went both ways on this.. but then i am an exception ...

of note... it does not work if the mans body does not respond. he can tell how he will not... but the truth is he can not. that's different.

 

[zekko]

Show me a guy that has/had his female coworkers wanting to jump his bone, but he turned them all down because "I don't shiit where I eat".

Well, I'm not a "don't sh!t where you eat" guy, but I have turned them down because my LTR at the time was more important to me. Not all men are so weak that they have to drop their pants if a woman offers.

well, for me i have went both ways on this.. but then i am an exception ...

That makes us both exceptions then.

 

[DJ Novice]

LTR = stability, ready access to p*ssy but (eventual) s*xual boredom
STR = instability, access to p*ssy not guaranteed but (short term) sexual variety/excitement.

Pick your poison.

If most men were honest they would like to experience both simultaneously. This is only possible through having multiple female options, being in an open relationship, running a harem or through being unfaithful. The last option is usually the most viable for most guys.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

Well, I'm not a "don't sh!t where you eat" guy, but I have turned them down because my LTR at the time was more important to me.

Mannn miss me with that bullsh!t.

Not all men are so weak that they have to drop their pants if a woman offers.

Miss me with this bullsh!t too.

 

[zekko]

Mannn miss me with that bullsh!t.

Your position is that every man has cheated, or would if given the opportunity. That simply is not the case.