Going out with a 'pure and holy' religious type of chick?

[redcouch]

Got this girl's # recently and have gone out with her a couple times. She is, quite honestly, my dream girl physically. Like it's insane.10/10 everything.

At the same time, she’s deeply religious and conservative and has talked about avoiding sin and living according to her faith. 'Prude' is a strong word... but I kinda would maybe describe her as one.

It's not necessarily a problem for me if a woman is political/religious. Those are 2 areas in my personal life that I don't really put much thought/attention into, but that's just where my priorities lie. But how do you actually navigate a woman like this? Anyone have experience with deeply religious chicks? And how do you actually go about uncovering where they are on this whole spectrum? Like, what does “avoiding sin” actually mean in practice? Do they usually avoid sex altogether? Other stuff?

Part of what throws me off is that she is insanely attractive and absolutely shows off her body, so I don’t really know what to make of the whole thing.

It feels insane to be treading this lightly. The last first date I went on before her, we ****ed that same night. And that chick was actually a devout Catholic who I found out damn near slept with a few other dudes i know... yikes.
My first date with this chick, we hugged goodbye lol.

It’s just a completely different ballgame. Idk what I’m doing. Sorry if this post sounds ret4rded. I'm tired as hell. But hopefully you guys get the gist of it.

 

[Bible_Belt]

It's a tease game. But it works both ways.

 

[crowolf]

absolutely shows off her body

Watch her actions, not her words.

Maybe she has been a hoe, and is now looking to end this chapter.

Maybe she is a virgin, and is too horny to keep all this sexual energy bottled up.

You don't really have to overthink it, it will unfold naturally. Just do your thing, and perhaps don't rush it too much if she actually is that conservative. You will know that if she is unexperienced and naive. If she is not, then you are being manipulated into thinking she is some innocent pure wife material girl.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Prudery sometimes isn't necessarily about sex itself but about being highly concerned with correctness, appearances, morality, and staying within the boundaries of what they believe is acceptable. The contradiction is that someone can be highly restrained on the surface while still being deeply fascinated by the things they tell themselves they shouldn't want. “Avoiding sin” could mean anything from waiting until marriage to simply having certain boundaries around sex, and you won't know which until you actually get to know her.

My advice is not to be put off by her judgments or restrictions, nor to try to argue with them or assume they tell you everything about what she is actually attracted to. If anything, let her have her opinions and see where things go. Sometimes the person who seems the most restrained can be the most interesting once they finally let their guard down.

 

[BaronOfHair]

@redcouch "It's not necessarily a problem for me if a woman is political/religious"

It will be, if you don't share her exact religious/political convictions*, ESPECIALLY in this sharply polarized social climate we currently inhabit. Tread cautiously here


*This is no less true of women who are deeply Woke. Unless you're an AOC-worshipping, preferred pronoun using Intersectionalist in the vein of Lin Manuel Miranda, you'll find dating a gal like this https://youtube.com/shorts/F4eozCrXR2g?is=pzy2VAljHGLKGNnx less satisfying than an Indo-Pakistani finds Montplier, the moment he discovers there's no curry on the shelves

 

[SpartanWarrior77]

Sounds like a dream chick, u gonna try to make her GF?

 

[redcouch]

Sounds like a dream chick, u gonna try to make her GF?

she definitely has potential. i live in a very blue major US city so it's cool to be with someone who is against the grain of all that, and who isn't a horny alcoholic bum (respectfully of course, there's a time and place for those types of lovely ladies)

 

[redcouch]

@redcouch "It's not necessarily a problem for me if a woman is political/religious"

It will be, if you don't share her exact religious/political convictions*, ESPECIALLY in this sharply polarized social climate we currently inhabit. Tread cautiously here


*This is no less true of women who are deeply Woke. Unless you're an AOC-worshipping, preferred pronoun using Intersectionalist in the vein of Lin Manuel Miranda, you'll find dating a gal like this https://youtube.com/shorts/F4eozCrXR2g?is=pzy2VAljHGLKGNnx less satisfying than an Indo-Pakistani finds Montplier, the moment he discovers there's no curry on the shelves

Good point. I've been forthright about what my views are and what they aren't. I know some women these things can be a total dealbreaker. I also know some women who are self-described progressive anti-racists who would 'never date a conservative guy', who are in LTRs with MAGA dudes who say the n-word lol

 

[Hamurabimbi]

The closest I got to that was a 28 year Black old nurse who was a good Baptist girl from Mississippi. She told me, one our first date. 'I want a committed, exclusive relationship. Then. I'm going to tear you up.'

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Part of what throws me off is that she is insanely attractive and absolutely shows off her body, so I don’t really know what to make of the whole thing.

If you're rich, show off your money, but are stingy you're generally considered an a$$hole. What would a relationship look like with this girl were you to get into one?

 

[SpartanWarrior77]

she definitely has potential. i live in a very blue major US city so it's cool to be with someone who is against the grain of all that, and who isn't a horny alcoholic bum (respectfully of course, there's a time and place for those types of lovely ladies)

yeah man, the only thing i would caution is dont let these "religeous" midwestern chicks with their pron-star body's fool u, they're pretty ruthless, if ur gonna make her a GF get VERY clear about ur frame AKA ur expectations - i would also introduce non-penetrative sex (this one is easy to sell to "religeous" types after about 6 weeks) into the dynamic relatively soon and start testing her submission, compiance and other factors to see how she would fair in a relationship in the long term. A loyal, feminine and submissive 6 is better than a ballbusting 8 any day of the week.