Downward spiral of female libido

[Bigpapa]

I noticed more and more for the past 1-2 years a downward spiral of female libido

when I refer to women, I refer to the normal ones not strippers, mental problems, onlyfans girls, etc

funnily is that I also noticed that they are a bit more obscene in the way they dress or talk, attitude in general, but from my experience this is mainly performative

like for example, you meet a girl she is quite warm you go with her through the seduction process properly and continue escalating and things go smoothly once you are in public ( where she feels safe that things will not go to all the way ) . But in the moment you isolate her properly at your place or similar it is like they freeze, then they order a cab see that it is coming, and then resume being warm and flirty again

Behavior like this happened all the time, but it was maybe a “ sometimes “ rather than “ most of times “ like i feel it is now

Did you guys noticed the same things?

 

[Doctor Europeo]

Did you guys noticed the same things?

Not really. If anything I have experienced the opposite: I have to make an effort to keep up with my woman´s libido. But I have been out of the single man´s game for more than four years, so it might be an exception.

 

[Velasco]

I have been out of the single man´s game for more than four years, so it might be an exception.

yeah this is a more recent phenomenon amongst the girls of this generation. which i brought up in another post:

young girls today are far more scandalous than the previous millennials i grew up with but far less sexually experienced.

scandalous in the way they dress. the thirst trap pictures and videos they post online. side effects of covid

 

[The Duke]

Perhaps its the energy you give off or lack of? You did say on another post that you had low energy in your 30's.

Could be these girls aren't using sex for validation as they have other avenues where they can post thirst trap pics and videos to get their needs met.

Maybe things are changing? If you want to see healthier minded women that are better for long term relationships, then there will need to be less random sexual encounters. We can't have it both ways.

 

[Bokanovsky]

I noticed more and more for the past 1-2 years a downward spiral of female libido

when I refer to women, I refer to the normal ones not strippers, mental problems, onlyfans girls, etc

funnily is that I also noticed that they are a bit more obscene in the way they dress or talk, attitude in general, but from my experience this is mainly performative

like for example, you meet a girl she is quite warm you go with her through the seduction process properly and continue escalating and things go smoothly once you are in public ( where she feels safe that things will not go to all the way ) . But in the moment you isolate her properly at your place or similar it is like they freeze, then they order a cab see that it is coming, and then resume being warm and flirty again

Behavior like this happened all the time, but it was maybe a “ sometimes “ rather than “ most of times “ like i feel it is now

Did you guys noticed the same things?

Don't you think it's a little bit of leap to assume that a change in your personal lived experience over a short period of time is somehow indicative of a worldwide phenomenon?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

No.

 

[Bigpapa]

Perhaps its the energy you give off or lack of? You did say on another post that you had low energy in your 30's.

Could be these girls aren't using sex for validation as they have other avenues where they can post thirst trap pics and videos to get their needs met.

Maybe things are changing? If you want to see healthier minded women that are better for long term relationships, then there will need to be less random sexual encounters. We can't have it both ways.

Yeah, when was referring to lack of energy was mainly referring to have lots of interactions with different people / girls as most of the discussions are cringe / lame and have to use a lot of energy to push thing forward

 

[Bigpapa]

Don't you think it's a little bit of leap to assume that a change in your personal lived experience over a short period of time is somehow indicative of a worldwide phenomenon?

Hence why I am asking if this is something that other people experienced as well or not

though, I do appreciate talking about their experience rather than stirring philosophical discussions

 

[The Duke]

Yeah, when was referring to lack of energy was mainly referring to have lots of interactions with different people / girls as most of the discussions are cringe / lame and have to use a lot of energy to push thing forward

So you prefer conversations that have more depth and substance vs. surface stuff that drains you?

 

[Bigpapa]

Maybe things are changing? If you want to see healthier minded women that are better for long term relationships, then there will need to be less random sexual encounters. We can't have it both ways.

but are people in general are on a path of being healthier minded and better for long term relationships ?

My experience is that women in the 90s/2000s even 2010s, in their 20 and 30s were better partners on average than are the current 20-30 people

I don’t think the issue is that women were ever too sexual, but more a reflection of the culture

there was always in the past 50-60 years a subtract of women with high body count. I do not think that things changed that drastically over the years

 

[Bigpapa]

So you prefer conversations that have more depth and substance vs. surface stuff that drains you?

yeah by default , but if I really like a girl I can find common ground just that it will come at a cost energy wise

i also kinda feel that women/men these days are not socialized properly

 

[BadBoy89]

I noticed more and more for the past 1-2 years a downward spiral of female libido

Noticed it with hot girls under 30 with 0 kids.

Fat women, older women, single mothers, ugly women, its an upward spiral. Yikes.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Not really I'd say we are probably living through the most sexually active era of females in living history

When I was single and going to singles events I was getting laid almost weekly ,

I'd go in have like 1-2 hours of conversation and a few drinks and then back for sex all night they were always happy for multiple rounds too.

I haven't come across a prude in a long time to be honest.

 

[Bigpapa]

When I was single and going to singles events I was getting laid almost weekly ,

What is usually the age of these girls?

 

[quodlibet]

My experience is that women in the 90s/2000s even 2010s, in their 20 and 30s were better partners on average than are the current 20-30 people

Have you considered the fact that you've gotten older so you're not attracting the "better partners" back from the 1990s and 2000s?

This reminds me of ladies who say, "what happened to all the nice guys I used to meet"? Duh, those guys are still there. She's just gotten older and less able to attract them.

 

[Bigpapa]

Have you considered the fact that you've gotten older so you're not attracting the "better partners" back from the 1990s and 2000s?

I can not say that I am less attractive than 5 years ago let’s say, I still have the same effect on women

seems more like a structural change, rather than a me factor

 

[Fortune_favors_the_bold]

I noticed more and more for the past 1-2 years a downward spiral of female libido

when I refer to women, I refer to the normal ones not strippers, mental problems, onlyfans girls, etc

funnily is that I also noticed that they are a bit more obscene in the way they dress or talk, attitude in general, but from my experience this is mainly performative

like for example, you meet a girl she is quite warm you go with her through the seduction process properly and continue escalating and things go smoothly once you are in public ( where she feels safe that things will not go to all the way ) . But in the moment you isolate her properly at your place or similar it is like they freeze, then they order a cab see that it is coming, and then resume being warm and flirty again

Behavior like this happened all the time, but it was maybe a “ sometimes “ rather than “ most of times “ like i feel it is now

Did you guys noticed the same things?

In my experience quite the opposite.

They resist to my escalation in public places like clubs or bars even in decent private corners, that sometimes I ask myself if Im annoying them and if I should just let it go, only to become proactive once we are by ourselves or in a private place.

Either Im too ugly for them wanted to be seen in public getting with me or it's their public setting b1tch shield being full power.

I also notice that those who wasy in public places are very unlikely to be the ones more open in the private.

 

[Bokanovsky]

Not really I'd say we are probably living through the most sexually active era of females in living history

When I was single and going to singles events I was getting laid almost weekly ,

I'd go in have like 1-2 hours of conversation and a few drinks and then back for sex all night they were always happy for multiple rounds too.

I haven't come across a prude in a long time to be honest.

Things must be very different in the UK. These types of "singles events" aren't common in North America.

 

[Velasco]

Things must be very different in the UK. These types of "singles events" aren't common in North America.

no we have them. just that you’ll never see a hot girl at one of them

 

[plumber]

I can not say that I am less attractive than 5 years ago let’s say, I still have the same effect on women

seems more like a structural change, rather than a me factor

5 years is a long time. for you it happens slowly... for others that see you less often the changes can be dramatic or at least noticed. there is a good enough threshold....

the other thing that is happening is compression is still occurring. 5 years ago perhaps the top 20% are included, 5 years later now its the top 18 or 19%. the compression is still happening. what was clearly good enough 5 years ago, might be not enough now.