Perhaps you are only seeing one side of the coin, and the full story is that nowadays many people are not ltr material.
Women have stopped trusting men to act like men and be leaders worth following since so many no longer are.
So yes, it's harder to find one because they are less trusting of men's worthiness to commit to and rightly so.
It cuts both ways.
There's definitely some truth to it. If men these days actually acted like real men hit the gym, did things that leveled them up — women wouldn't be so distrustful of men. But that's on them too, it comes down to their choices. When I was doing my degrees, most of the guys I knew either drank, smoked, or didn't work out, so I'll give you that. BUT here's the thing: if women had never chosen those guys in the first place, if they had actually punished that type of behavior, those guys wouldn't exist as a category. Women hold enormous power in this, and their choices have a massive impact they can literally shape what society looks like. They choose whom to reproduce with and Collective reward + punishment is very strong.
And guess what? I wasn't initially seen as a leader by either men or women in academia, precisely because I work out and look like the kind of guy who gets a lot of girls. That happened every single time, abroad and locally, across my entire international experience. Why? Because of the stereotypes they carry around in their heads. In one case, people lost their shvt when they found out I was ex-McKinsey with a strong network across big companies at management level, I was the only one who stood out. But most of the girls still played games, despite the social proof, the strong network, the high income, the outgoing fun lifestyle, the top-10 passport, the fitness, the higher intellect, the education from top global universities, the multiple languages. I didn't hold a big sign with hey look at me, im the best guy in the world, those qualities were naturally discovered, keep that also in mind.
Instead, they tried some psychological warfare on me. A few of them out of pure jealousy and envy. They didn't want the unattractive dudes around them to figure out that these were actually the qualities they found attractive, because they don't want them to level up. My social proof was through the roof, so they couldnt run the BS all the time, otherwise they would be excluded.
The biological clock doesn't hit women the way it used to. They don't work out, they eat like ****, they **** around with all the wrong types of guys, and a lot of them manipulate men into believing that unattractive traits are actually attractive. I've seen this play out every single time. There's a segment of women who actively punish leadership qualities, they'd rather see those qualities in some fat nice guy just to humble you rather than in a handsome man who leveled up nearly every desirable trait in his life.