My week from Online dating apps - LRs

[BillyPilgrim]

yeah I cancelled on her tonite . I realised this.
We both would benefit from the space.
and I need to reload my mojo lol.


And now the young and hot #chick has also cancelled on me for the Monday

this week has been a case of , all ducks in a row .
a lot of the times w dating it’s the issue of tryna fit them all in. And doing double bookings efc haha
Can get stressful tryna schedule and meet them all tbh.

When the going is good and the sun is shining , I must try to make Hay tho. ‍

Next time you talk to the young hot one (#2) invite her out for an ice cream or snack before heading to yours.

 

[Cheeky_James]

Next time you talk to the young hot one (#2) invite her out for an ice cream or snack before heading to yours.

well, that lady #2 un-cancelled so it was back on today well .. we had lunch mid way through the 5 hour morning-to-afternoon shag session. Phew!
she is incredible…. I’m pinching myself once again.

kinda need a week off now after all this.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

yeah this is the truth.
Back in the heyday.. my record was 6 chicks in a week. That was nuts.

to quote a player friend of mine whom I once bragged to I was seeing 4 women at once -
His reply “yeah that’s great mate .. but don’t forget , you have to TALK to them all too ;P”

very true. It’s a head melter all the comms, scheduling and listening to inane chat.
Even the sexytalk can get tiring.

If I had the money, well..I’d just use hot ‘scorts probably, (if I just wanted sex and variety). Much simpler and easier haha. And they piss off after the sex. XD

an open and clear rotation of 2 decent chicks is actually plenty . With an occasional bit of sexy variety here and there.

and just keep that going casual for a few months or however long…

I had a time several years ago where I had 6 or 7 plates on rotation and after about a month of basically rotating thru them every 10-12 days with me seeing 2 or 3 in a day on a weekend a few times, I was literally physically and mentally exhausted.

I just couldn't do it anymore and had to let a few just drop off...another one dropped off shortly after on her own and then I had 3-4 for a good few months before I had to reload which was much more manageable.

Too much of a good thing can definitely be a problem after a while no matter how much you are into them. There were times my d!ck was literally sore for a day or two.

 

[Cheeky_James]

I had a time several years ago where I had 6 or 7 plates on rotation and after about a month of basically rotating thru them every 10-12 days with me seeing 2 or 3 in a day on a weekend a few times, I was literally physically and mentally exhausted.

I just couldn't do it anymore and had to let a few just drop off...another one dropped off shortly after on her own and then I had 3-4 for a good few months before I had to reload which was much more manageable.

Too much of a good thing can definitely be a problem after a while no matter how much you are into them. There were times my d!ck was literally sore for a day or two.

absolutely.
Woah. That’s a lot on a steady rotation …3 in a day is busy busy yep.
Did you have a FT job then ?

I identify with the exhaustion for sure… physically and defs mentally. All that comms, txting and scheduling stress besides the shagging is a headache.

Booking one in … and then getting an offer off another (or two) who may be better for the same slot etc happens to me .
Then Id stress about it..

and of course , the web of cover stories that need to be told…( I wasn’t open about it all)
Complicated man..

“Pimpin ain’t easy” as they say!! lol

It’s true.

No wonder guys just settle down w 1 good one after a phase.

I’m drinking beroccas /hydralytes / energy drinks most days.. just to get my salts and minerals etc back up.

and then have to get my story straight for the next booking.. re what I’ve been up to

I always wanna tell chicks “I’m like a male escort - but I’m for free ” haha. Cos that’s what it feels like. I generally frame myself as a “LoverMan” tbh.

Btw check out my earlier post #20 on page 1 of this thread..(forgot to tag you) re a redditor that slept w 65 chicks in one year. Crazy stuff..

 

[Lotus Effect]

Very impressive mate!

Just don't fall for the trap of relationship getting blindsided by young hot raw sxx.

Two summers ago I was in a situation much like yours, ultimate aura, pulling hotties here and there, not Online dating, but still, with a good rotation, and getting absolutely drained by crazy young hot s&x.

Just by reading your post it brings me back.

Until I got dragged/pinned down by one of them, very much like #2. Young Irish chik hot as MFer, crazy good in bed, super slooty, would flip when I was about to cvm just to drink it all, and wake me up the next day saying 'I want my milk daddy'.

Got into a 2 year relationship with her. Ended last month.

And now I'm not half the man I was when I started things back them. They will drain all your alpha energy and then bail.

Don't be a s*cker like me. Keep spinning.
And avoid the relationship route. It's not worthy in this day and age.

Cheers,

 

[Cheeky_James]

Very impressive mate!

Just don't fall for the trap of relationship getting blindsided by young hot raw sxx.

Two summers ago I was in a situation much like yours, ultimate aura, pulling hotties here and there, not Online dating, but still, with a good rotation, and getting absolutely drained by crazy young hot s&x.

Just by reading your post it brings me back.

Until I got dragged/pinned down by one of them, very much like #2. Young Irish chik hot as MFer, crazy good in bed, super slooty, would flip when I was about to cvm just to drink it all, and wake me up the next day saying 'I want my milk daddy'.

Got into a 2 year relationship with her. Ended last month.

And now I'm not half the man I was when I started things back them. They will drain all your alpha energy and then bail.

Don't be a s*cker like me. Keep spinning.
And avoid the relationship route. It's not worthy in this day and age.

Cheers,

thanks man.
Glad it brings back some memories of the good times of plenty

Yeah, no serious relationships for me atm, I have commitments that have priority these days… but Yknow best laid plans etc haha.

yep re the one who got ya to LTR ..(Go on de irish ) …this is classic Girl Game hey?.
When they know a guy has other female options (and they do ,as they are great detectives, all of them) , theyll Front-load all the wicked sex to get the guy nice and hooked (as we are simple easy creatures) and work to tie him down then hey.
Same happened me for last LTR . That went for many years also.

With this younger hottie for example I was sus on the first hookup that the sex was performative, porn star esque. (Probably was to an extent ) it was too good. Lotsa porno-moaning and dirty talk.
and yeah, gotta say .. it was so hot , off I go raw dogging her on date 1 , after I ran out of condoms (facepalm) .

And again today , I’m doing it again. on the 2nd bang date,
Like a numbnuts!
Dumb. dumb. I gotta feel that sh1t in. It only takes one of those lil swimmers to get up there…and I’m goosed!

touch wood now. (Eek!)

Today she’s all “let’s watch porn” and other hotter things. Just never know what they are up to tbh behind the scenes.

many chicks have said to me along the way “Guys are so easy” . It’s true .

And as a good friend , an Italian player buddy said to me (I think this is old Italian phrase) -
“Women have plans men will never know about” …
———————
I like that expression “ultimate aura” btw.

As an aside , Women always use such terms for an attractive guy - energy, vibe, aura , confidence, charisma etc .. (which are frustratingly intangible sometimes ) but really that is what it seems to be.
its a thing.

Imo the most attractive things to women about a guy could possibly be ..drum roll…preselection. …“women want what other women want” ...

I’m almost sure , chicks can sniff the pvssy off me ,when I’m in heat, and getting action. Pheromones maybe. Or just via body language and sub comms.

“this guys getting action .. he’s in heat..what’s he got?.. maybe I ought to find out and get some of that ”. Yknow?

And when I’m doing well,, there’s this ‘snowball effect’ I’ve noticed, it’s like I can almost pick up chicks just with my eyes . A certain look. I see their reaction to it. Idk.
It’s a phenomenon tho..

 

[Cheeky_James]

So an update ,
Monday this week a day bang session 9am -2pm with my younger Asian hottie . Phew. Super hot.

Tuesday night - bang session w my older Kink chickie babe. Also extremely hot and porno kinky.

I am growing feels and thoughts now for both when I am not with them . (lol) oh oh!
The younger is just .. delicious,
The older is a witty and very kinky, sexy and cool.

today - I’m watching a the video documentary ‘Iceberg Slim -My Life as a Pimp. ‘.. it’s very good,

just chilling. Wow, this Slim is a cold a$$ mofo..

a Netflix and chill date set up with yet another bit of strange off Hinge tonite. So likely a bang , obvs.

im am getting Greedy now. But seem to be on a roll atm,

that is all!
CJ

 

[BillyPilgrim]

So an update ,
Monday this week a day bang session 9am -2pm with my younger Asian hottie . Phew. Super hot.

Tuesday night - bang session w my older Kink chickie babe. Also extremely hot and porno kinky.

I am growing feels and thoughts now for both when I am not with them . (lol) oh oh!
The younger is just .. delicious,
The older is a witty and very kinky, sexy and cool.

today - I’m watching a the video documentary ‘Iceberg Slim -My Life as a Pimp. ‘.. it’s very good,

just chilling. Wow, this Slim is a cold a$$ mofo..

a Netflix and chill date set up with yet another bit of strange off Hinge tonite. So likely a bang , obvs.

im am getting Greedy now. But seem to be on a roll atm,

that is all!
CJ

Learn from Slim. Stay cold, allow very little feels.

 

[Cheeky_James]

Learn from Slim. Stay cold, allow very little feels.

Wise words.
get this Billy - another LR - .so this new chick from Hinge rocks up to my place tonite.. for a Netflix & Chill date.

i set the meet too early, had just knocked off work so barely had 10 mins time to tidy my place/ quickly rescan her bio and pics /quickly recap on our Texting.
I was in a rush and head up my ass tbh. A bit stressed and not in a good cool sexy state.
I kept forgetting her name even … lol.
Anyway.
she arrives and gets out the car. She’s taller than I imagined and looks..ok but not great in the face .. doesn’t quite match the cute pics ,
has a big jacket on also..oh oh (red flag)
I take her up to the apartment . She sits on couch and I get drinks etc she takes the jacket off,
Oh oh.

i won’t go into the rest of it .. needless to say…I got cat fished. She was not great. And what was I gonna do .. I didn’t know know what to do, to get her out of the apartment (!)
Her tits were good .. but can’t sugar coat it .. she was fat.

So I got catfished and fvcked a fatty tonite.

dang.

things all look a bit different now .
Im not so c0cky now … : (

for shame on CJ….For shame!!

this is for sure the downside of the apps.

I’ve been cat-fished a fair few times … but oh dates so I just walked away. Really gotta tighten up on the picture inspection, chicks hide **** with pets , tables, friends, old photos ,

must make an emergency plan to eject next time this happens. Not good for the Mojo, my self esteem has just taken a nose dive, Sheeit.

Ah well. Fook it.

 

[Cheeky_James]

@The Duke
no razzing/flaming for me??

Any ideas on how I can get out of such a Cat Fish situation? It would seem pretty rude to tell a chick “sorry im not interested” upon her arrival at a bang date imo. Emergency phone call perhaps …hmmm.

same question to you @Lotus Effect.. and any others cheers CJ

 

[Lotus Effect]

The lesson is to do a pre date, before your house, to screen it.

Do it at a place that is conveniently close, and do it after the chick already said yes to the bang date.
Maybe even if she is on her way.

On the likes of, hey, let's grab an Açai down that place before, it's too hot I'm melting today. Or, Sunsets by the beach are stuning this time of the year, I think we can catch it on time.

Something along those lines.

You screen. Make out if its a hottie, or you say that theres no chemestry and pay her the uber if she is on the plus size side of the spectrum.

Always work.

 

[Cheeky_James]

The lesson is to do a pre date, before your house, to screen it.

Do it at a place that is conveniently close, and do it after the chick already said yes to the bang date.
Maybe even if she is on her way.

On the likes of, hey, let's grab an Açai down that place before, it's too hot I'm melting today. Or, Sunsets by the beach are stuning this time of the year, I think we can catch it on time.

Something along those lines.

You screen. Make out if its a hottie, or you say that theres no chemestry and pay her the uber if she is on the plus size side of the spectrum.

Always work.

soooo… don’t just bang her anyway? Is that what you are saying? lol.

That’s good tips, I’ll have to start doing this.
Yeah .. that ‘sorry there’s no chemistry’ convo is pretty awkward hey.. awkies but very necessary.
I’ve already erased last night from my mind today.
Back to my normal self again, phew!
thanks mate.

 

[Lotus Effect]

soooo… don’t just bang her anyway? Is that what you are saying? lol.

That’s good tips, I’ll have to start doing this.
Yeah .. that ‘sorry there’s no chemistry’ convo is pretty awkward hey.. awkies but very necessary.
I’ve already erased last night from my mind today.
Back to my normal self again, phew!
thanks mate.

Along the lines mate.

you can say you’re really tired. You can say the açaí didn’t go well. You can start to cry and say sunsets remind you of your ex.

the chemistry is just more straightforward because it’s not an excuse and it cuts the BS feeding no false hope, or counter reply.

but I’m sure you got the hang of it

tip: think of what you rather: awkward convo, or awkward s€x? Im pretty sure you know the answer

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Learn from Slim. Stay cold, allow very little feels.

You don't tug on Superman's cape...
You don't spit into the wind...
You don't pull the mask off the ol' Lone Ranger...
And you don't mess around with Slim...

 

[Cheeky_James]

Along the lines mate.

you can say you’re really tired. You can say the açaí didn’t go well. You can start to cry and say sunsets remind you of your ex.

the chemistry is just more straightforward because it’s not an excuse and it cuts the BS feeding no false hope, or counter reply.

but I’m sure you got the hang of it

tip: think of what you rather: awkward convo, or awkward s€x? Im pretty sure you know the answer

truth re the chemistry They appreciate the honesty hey. ..cuts straight through. That’s my usual go to.

Tbh…re this one. I told myself she looked like the Aussie porno star Angela White , which she did.
without the makeup and sexy outfit.

… and fatter.
She was a PAWG

she went alright in the doggy tho !. Nice cushion for the pushin.
She was super quiet but. Very passive. Don’t think she enjoyed it either.
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So update on the plates .
Girl 1 is texting me but she lives too far away and I don’t have time.
Girl 2 is still on the go (whoop)
Girl 3 is on her period and gave me a serve that I left the toilet seat up , plus an unflushed toilet full of piss for her arrival. Plus dirty dishes/cups in the sink when I left her house the other morning. She sent me pics when she got home from working saying. “What the fvck?” and more pissed texts after, (whoopsies)

So she’s gone radio silence for 2-3 days now, I think it’s possibly over. I’m giving her space that’s for sure . Haha

so possibly down to one,

these situs never last long for me tbh,

 

[Cheeky_James]

You don't tug on Superman's cape...
You don't spit into the wind...
You don't pull the mask off the ol' Lone Ranger...
And you don't mess around with Slim...

speaking of Pimps ..
this guy below is the OG and Pimp of ‘PUA’/ dating advice imo.
His mindset is so rock solid and his maxims re women are so useful.
His attitude in this particular video re his text game made me crack up laughing.

 

[Slowhandluke]

Hey fellas.

just a lil check in , re the week I’ve had from my Online App activites.

Saturday - woman 1 form Hinge. Went down the coast and went to a day festival of rock/punk bands. Super cool event. 3pm arrival , 4-11pm at the gig. Lotsa sexy dancing ,pashing, groping at gig in evening. Tipsy fun. Back to her place . Hot ****ing until 4am. Killer BJ. Morning sex on Sunday.

wedneasay- woman 2 from Hinge. Straight to the house netflix and chill date @7pm , Younger , way hotter than expected super sexy chick. ****ing by 8:30pm -> 2am . Insane porno sex. Insane BJ. Hard smashing . Very wild. Went to raw dogging when ran out of condoms (oopsies ‍ ) Thursday Morning sex.
My head was spinning it was so good.
Totally drained on Thursday. Drinking beroccas and hypdrolytes all day Thurs and had a nap.

Thursday- woman 3 from Feeld. 3rd date bang. Super hot . Another insane BJ , more super hard smashing. Very kinky and switchy lady, Friday morning sex.
absolutely wrecked Friday. More beroccas and hydralytes for salts and recovery,

Saturday- woman 3 again. 10pm. Hard smashing until 3am.

sunday - woman 3 booked again.

monday - woman 2 the younger hottie booked for the day time.

Crazy stuff and I am exhausted but very happy to be getting so much action w a rotation of 3-4 lately,
This week has been the busiest tho,
Making hay while the sun is shining

Happy days. I do like Online Dating

James

he gets more asss then a rest stop during the 4th of july weekend.

Next stop is the eiffel tower. Don't cross swords, and you'll be ok hahahaha

Also, I would get checked. When girls have sex so quickly, you can be pretty sure you arent the only one on their roster.

 

[Lotus Effect]

The rule is

You only get illness if you get tested.

 

[Dash Riprock]

Do you not have a job? Either you are seriously dragging ass every day or you work crazy hours or aren't working

I'll add hobbies, interests, gym time, hanging with guys time, and studying and/or working.

OP is playing a dangerous game by spending so much time immersed in OLD apps and going out with women that chew up his time and money, especially at age 42.

I'll say it for the N’th time: Women should be a fun side dish on your plate of food, not the main course.

Good luck.

 

[Cheeky_James]

I'll add hobbies, interests, gym time, hanging with guys time, and studying and/or working.

OP is playing a dangerous game by spending so much time immersed in OLD apps and going out with women that chew up his time and money, especially at age 42.

I'll say it for the N’th time: Women should be a fun side dish on your plate of food, not the main course.

Good luck.

this is a valid point. And true . A guys life should come firstly and it’s bros before ho’s for sure.

Way back in my late 20s when I first got into pickup, I went full bore for years and let all of that slide. And became a bit of a shell, just a character.

these days tho, tbh, most of my friends are busy. Or unless with women and dating. Doing it the traditional way. I can’t even talk to most of them about my escapades without mad judgement appearing. So it’s all on the downlow, or toned down massively..

I had a big break and dry spell last year. So it’s ‘make hay while the sun is shines’ time for me.

the funny thing is , these ‘hot streaks’ come and go,
I’m still tryna figure out what exactly happens when I get in this zone. Like what it is and how to replicate it when I want Yknow?

is it a deluded sense of confidence thats the ‘signal’ for chicks (?) or that I’m preselected (?) or that I’m doing very bold moves on Hinge with chicks (?) relating to this confidence .. or that I am laid back and disappear/reappear in app chats randomly .. that I appear unavailable (?) idk really.

A combination of all of it I guess…
1 thing that appears to be very true is what Brent Smith says - the woman has to be in pursuer mode , 100%, a guy has to get the woman to start chasing. It really is the ideal situation.

I kinda swear by that now.

And his other maxim rings very true also

“the more you tell them, the more you Repel them”

Im seeing that in action , big time.

Be nice to figure out 1 ‘pattern ‘ of comms and jsut script it , for repeatable results.

it feels like a ‘High T ‘state to me or something when I get good results / great results happening.

it’s definitely an Energy/Vibe/Aura thing .. still hard to put into a ‘Formula’ tho. Yknow?