Girl went cold after heavy makeout on the second date

[summersky]

Hello everyone,

met this 25 year old girl online, first date was hanging out with her and her female friend. Second date I took her to a Restaurant and the date went very well. Lots of touching, kissing and we had a great connection. After the date I brought her home and there was a heavy makeout in the car. She wanted to have 6ex, she told me but I told her that I have no protection with me. We decided to drive to the next store to get it. After we were back in the car, she told me that she doesnt feel like it anymore and that its time for her to go home. I said ok, maybe another time and hinted at seeing her the next day. The next day I was busy with work and had no time to meet her but I texted her in the late evening and asked how her day went. I saw that she was online but she ignored my messages. After I sent another message, I got a cold reply, she just told me that she is going to bed.

Its obvious that she went cold. What do you think, what went wrong? Would love to see her again. How should i act?

Will be happy about any advice!

Regards

 

[The Duke]

Rule #1, always strike when the iron is hot, condom or not.

Is there another guy in the picture that she is still interested in? Did she get buyers remorse? Who knows, she is an emotional woman.

I doubt its you, most likely her.

You should not care so much. Go find 3 more.

Had a girl I met at a bar one night that I walked out to my car. We started making out and I started fingering her. About 5minutes into it I can hear her phone blowing up. Only emotional/angry boyfriends do schitt like that. I knew right then it was her boyfriend and that was all the further we went. A few days later I figure out I was right and she and her boyfriend had a previous fight that day. She was out looking to be validated. Pretty common chic stuff.

 

[Gamisch]

Bad news: you met her online and thus ( as all women do) she had several options. ( I get back to that in a sec). In other words, she prolly didn't felt like having sex was something " necessary " for her as she has an abundance of d1ck in her life...

You can text her once more..but now you're in the "double text " category already. I'd say move on and forget about her for now. If she reaches out: great! If she doesn't, also great!

Good news: she had 99+ matches and yet she picked YOU. That's means you've beaten TONS of other men! Take that as a huge compliment!

Imo you shouldn't take her out that extensively. First date= dipping your toe in the water. Believe me: she been fecked in allies , busted cars and on air mattresses on first dates. That's how backwards the game is!! Pookie Tyrone and Chad feck her effortlessly. She knows ,they know.

Perhaps next time try to reverse it: first try to hit and only then wine and dine her. She probably felt too much " bf vibes " too early while she has a list of dude she wanna run through...she will meet Tyrone / Chad and his aloof attitude will actually make her put in effort and ditch other men, while Chad/ Tyrone will keep her as an option.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

She didn't see you as a man of action.

 

[Tiguere]

A woman will forgive you for going too fast.... But she won't have mercy on you for going too slow

 

[BillyPilgrim]

3 mistakes

1) first meet with her friend there
2) 2nd meet at restaurant (bad idea before sex - either she is prissy, you're supplicative, or both
3) no condom with you in case a 5 second window of opportunity appears (common with prissy girls)

"6ex". OP, are you afraid of typing the word "sex" or something?

 

[Sega Genesis]

After the date I brought her home and there was a heavy makeout in the car. She wanted to have 6ex, she told me but I told her that I have no protection with me. We decided to drive to the next store to get it. After we were back in the car, she told me that she doesnt feel like it anymore and that its time for her to go home.

^^To me it's pretty obvious that in that moment she was heavily into you and wanted to f*ck...

Unfortunately (for both of you), you broke the momentum and sexual tension by announcing you had no condoms and driving to get one.

During this time, her p*ssy dried up and she lost whatever lusful feelings she had while making out with you.

Going forward, ya gotta strike while the iron is HOT! You didn't have to c*m in her pu$$y, she has two other holes - her mouth and her a$$.

Or even on her face which can be quite sexy and erotic!

Next time...

P.S. As far as seeing her again... bide your time and go silent for awhile. Reach out again in a couple of weeks, if she's still cold move on.

 

[Free_Agent]

You were a free meal and something to do for a night.

Or

She found a better option

It happens....

 

[Clockwerk50]

Your story reminds me of a couple I went through in the past. The most similar one was when I called this girl on a Saturday just to talk, and we ended up admitting we were both really horny and should hang out the next day. When the day came, I texted her to meet up, and she came up with the excuse that her “grandma was sick.”

Either way, you didn’t sleep with her either because of logistics, you warmed her up for someone else, or, most likely, your eagerness the next day made it seem like you only wanted sex. By showing your cards, you may have temporarily given up some power.

Thankfully, you reached second base, and in my experience, women in this category will reach out to you in the next few days or weeks when they’re bored or when the other guys have lost the lead. That’s when you can spit some game and ask them out again.

Truthfully, you dropped the ball with the double texting, and sometimes it’s hard to recover from that. Just give her some space. They usually make their rounds, and you’ll hear from them when you least expect it.